i lied :O Options

[Heathasm]

come to think of it i cant think of a time in the past year and a half(how long we've been together) that i've actually ~lied~ about where i was and what i was doing to my bf. now, we live together and consider our relationship pretty serious but one thing ive never really gotton over about him is that he's so demanding of all my time. today my best friend and i wanted to go out to eat and just chill w/no bfs and i knew the only way i would be able to go without starting a huge fight was to lie and say i was staying late at work (lol so obvious but he believed me). after i said i was staying late he said that he was sad we wouldnt be able to spend much time together before having to goto sleep but it was ~ok~ because i was working aka making the mulah. i actually feel really bad about lying though ~_~ which is annoying but i just dont see any other way for me to peacefully hang out with my friend like that so short notice and what not.

anyway if any one has a better approach pls enlighten me or do you do similar things with your bf/gf?

[queen]

i think it would've been better to fight about it. it only takes a little lie to start your double life .

no, but seriously, i'm not exactly an "honesty is the best policy" freak, but i do think your bf should know if you want to have fun with someone else, and he should be able to acknowledge that you both can't be together all the time. you both need your time alone and time with your own friends.

[illriginal]

i think it would've been better to fight about it. it only takes a little lie to start your double life .

Tell me about it. I had girlfriend who literally started to believe her own lies even though I had evidence of what she was doing.

And in fact it started with lil white lies just so she can hang out with her friends. Don't get me wrong though... it wasn't like I had a problem with her goin out, she thought I did though... At the end of it all, she ended up seeing a psychiatrist LOL.

I dumped her.


Does your boyfriend have friends?... If he does, ask him to call his friends up and setup a date for fun.. and you call up your friends and all of you can meet each other. Maybe your boyfriend just needs to get comfortable with your friends.

If it's about just trying to be with you every minute of your life... then you need to explain to him that you need your freedom and that you're not some sort of property.

Meh.. I honestly couldn't give you good advice on this, I've never had a female become some sort of control freak. Nor have I missed any of my girlfriends so badly that I would get upset if they wanted to hang out with their friends.

Good luck to ya.