disgusted and confused.. Options

[dpl313]

I am a nice guy. I'm a good person, etc. But I have had nothing but horrible experiences with dating. Most recently I went out on a date with a girl. It seemed to go well. She said she wanted a 2nd date. Then she told me she was more comfortable talking online. Then she rejected me on valentine's day.

So it has me thinking do girls go for guys that are a**holes more than a guy that is nice?? I don't mean a guy that is overly nice either.

Also, I'm 21 and a virgin. I've had chances to lose it, but I haven't. I've been thinking I would save it for that special person. What a dummy I've been for thinking that, because the people I keep meeting are nowhere near special! My cousin and a few of my guy friends keep telling me to just lose it. They say I'll feel more confident, and I'll do better with dating. Is that true??

Do girls look down on guys that are virgins? I say that, because I've been out with girls, and I've said I'm a virgin. They'll say encouraging words, but you can see a look of disappointment on their face.

[DoubleJ]

Wow, you and I are exactly alike, except for the virgin thing. With that being said, what you have to realize, is that "girls" want to date the bad boys. Even though they say that they don't like to have to chase after boys and deal with their shit, they secretly do. It gives them something to hold on to in a relationship. Are all girls like this? No, but the majority of them are.

I only talk to women, because they tend to know what they want, and they don't have time for all the bullshit. They are driven, and they want a man that is going to treat them right, and not do them dirty at the end of the day. There are girls out here our age that are capable of being good to a good man, but it is just very hard to find them.


You will learn as you go along, that some women like to keep the good guy around, because he is her safety guy. The good guy is there in the background just in case she starts to get tired of the bad guy and wants to move on. I was in the situation as recently as last week, but I decided that it was time for me to strike out on my own and have fun.

Although I am somewhat against it, I can understand why your friends would say to get out and have fun. My friends and family have told me the same thing. We are entirely too young, to try to be strapped down and in a relationship. You are not going to just find your dream girl on the first shot, and that is why you must get out and let your guard down a little and have fun. One thing to remember though, is that you give them enough to keep them interested and not to give away the full product on the first go 'round.