disgusted and confused.. Options

[dpl313]

I am a nice guy. I'm a good person, etc. But I have had nothing but horrible experiences with dating. Most recently I went out on a date with a girl. It seemed to go well. She said she wanted a 2nd date. Then she told me she was more comfortable talking online. Then she rejected me on valentine's day.

So it has me thinking do girls go for guys that are a**holes more than a guy that is nice?? I don't mean a guy that is overly nice either.

Also, I'm 21 and a virgin. I've had chances to lose it, but I haven't. I've been thinking I would save it for that special person. What a dummy I've been for thinking that, because the people I keep meeting are nowhere near special! My cousin and a few of my guy friends keep telling me to just lose it. They say I'll feel more confident, and I'll do better with dating. Is that true??

Do girls look down on guys that are virgins? I say that, because I've been out with girls, and I've said I'm a virgin. They'll say encouraging words, but you can see a look of disappointment on their face.

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I am a nice guy. I'm a good person, etc. But I have had nothing but horrible experiences with dating. Most recently I went out on a date with a girl. It seemed to go well. She said she wanted a 2nd date. Then she told me she was more comfortable talking online. Then she rejected me on valentine's day.

So it has me thinking do girls go for guys that are a**holes more than a guy that is nice?? I don't mean a guy that is overly nice either.

Also, I'm 21 and a virgin. I've had chances to lose it, but I haven't. I've been thinking I would save it for that special person. What a dummy I've been for thinking that, because the people I keep meeting are nowhere near special! My cousin and a few of my guy friends keep telling me to just lose it. They say I'll feel more confident, and I'll do better with dating. Is that true??

Do girls look down on guys that are virgins? I say that, because I've been out with girls, and I've said I'm a virgin. They'll say encouraging words, but you can see a look of disappointment on their face.

You know.... if I were you, I wouldn't mention the whole virgin thing.

The only thing I could say is... just date for fun. Think of it as a date with just a friend. But! Talk to them like you're interested in them in terms of a relationship. Make dating just a fun game, you don't need to mention the whole virgin thing, nor need to have sex.

You gotta see it as practice, no matter what the girl looks like, it doesn't matter. Anyways just from the dating scene you could build a "character" from it. Not so much a different fake life or anything like that.

Meh I would go into more details but it's a guy thing that shouldn't be spread on this forum board lol