Is this rejection? Options

[dpl313]

I started talking to this girl through a friend of mine. We went out on a date last week. I had a good time for the most part. Something has me confused...

She has this guy friend she mentioned. She was saying how he buys her and some of her friends gifts. More specifically she was saying how he bought her thoughtful gifts. Like he bought her the coat she had on. He bought her car parts and stuff. Maybe it's just me, but guys don't do stuff like that just because.

So the date itself seemed to go ok. I thought it went well for the most part. She said she had a good time. She gave me her number. I asked her about a 2nd date. She said, "yes, but I don't know when." Because she's a college student. But when she said that I really thought she was blowing me off and I looked at her funny. Then she said, "I'm not blowing you off. Don't take it that way."

I tried calling her but I had no luck. So I emailed her and she replied back. Saying she only got one of my calls and left her charger in her friend's car, and she didn't get it back yet. She told me she didn't have time to go out with me, because she had to catch up on classes. Then she told me she is only comfortable talking to me online. I don't know, because the day after our date she did tell me she was shy. But when I read the part about her comfortability... my pride seriously started hurting.. Plus I've never heard of a girl saying that. I'd swear that's bs.

But I thought let me just suck it up, keep talking to her, and see what happens? We talk online regularly. I thought she didn't enjoy the date, but she really did enjoy it. I'm planning on asking her out to lunch again at the end of the week. However, I can't help but think... she only sees me as a friend.. doesn't she?

[MissHygienic]

Well, assuming that your stories are 100 percent accurate, I can safely say that she's obviously too shy to be straightforward with you. Go ask her what she thinks of you the next time you speak to her online. No bullshit, just the truth, tell her that. Be the one who's straightforward with her and stop trying to beat around the bush to probe her feelings. Let her do the talking, not you.