Relationships and the Military, Stationed Overseas Options

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I'm not the type to put my personal business out there too much. Granted, I am open about topics many of my peers shy away from, I keep what's going on in my personal life to myself. Lately, I've put my relationship into perspective. I can count the members of CB who know about my relationship, and its ups and downs, on one hand. For once, I'm going to actually open up.

I strongly do believe marriage can be successful while being in the military. Despite the often questionably pay, service members are compensated for the cost of living and dependents. With an added income from a spouse, a family can live comfortably in today's military. On the other hand, being somewhat traditional in many ways, a relationship spawned out of nowhere, between a service member at a temporary duty station, and a local, seems doomed for failure from the get go.

Living a lifestyle where I have to take on responsibilities that I wouldn't have even dreamed of 2 years ago, I feel as though my current profession is aging me. I'm to the point where I feel as though a relationship is absolutely pointless unless it shows the potential of marriage. And with that, I'm also not a big supporter of divorce. The drawback of this lifestyle is that its a lonely one. The constant deployments to third world countries, meeting new people on a weekly basis, not really being able to trust anyone on a personal level, and the separation from all that you know can weigh heavy on anyone's shoulders.

Its almost like I've "settled" for a relationship because of physical attraction emotional support. This isn't the first time it has happened. Which is leading me to believe that until I find "the one," if "the one," actually exists, I will constantly go in circles and trap myself in dead end relationships with women that don't live up to the character or integrity I'd expect out of a friend, let alone a wife. Is this a sacrifice I'm required to make as long as I wear this uniform?

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I'm a little wary of marriages while being in the military, because I've heard many, many stories of both wives and husbands taking every chance to cheat on one another once the man is off in another country. You shouldn't settle for just any girl to whom you're physically attracted; however, even though your outlook on your future is a little dim.

I've read every reply and such, but this is the only one I can reply to. My manager was in the military and he tells us stories about how much he use to cheat on his wife and how good the sex was >_> and then he complains how his wife won't sleep with him anymore So yes it does happen, I mean of course you have your lucky pick of the bunch that do stick it out and don't cheat on each other.

My dads girlfriends kids dad side of the family, their aunt or something like that is in the army and she got married a few days before she had to go to Germany, their doing fine from what I know. Although he is in the army as well and somewhere else.

I think it depends on the relationship the two people share, and if their up for the challenge.