uhhh. awkward silences. Options

[lovescream]

D: It's been a month since my bf and I have been together, but a couple of months since we became friends. We never were that close of friends, but we did talk sometimes and hung out, etc.

But now, like, I realized there are a lot of awkward silences when we're together. Because we've been together a lot more now. But the silences are killing me. When we're together, yes, I feel comfortable with him, but even then our conversations are dead. I mean once we spark it up, it's great, but then later it dies and it we end up filling the awkward silence with sooooo's and anyyyyway's, and that goes nowhere, really.

Gah. Really, and our conversations on AIM die extremely quick.
I know we have a lot in common, and yeah, but for some reason, it just does. Lol.

Gahh. Help? D: I mean I know he plays a part in this, so I don't wanna be the one blabbering on and on and annoy him. Soo, errr. Grr. Haha.

[dustbunny]

^ I don't think they're quite at that sort of point in the relationship yet though.

the whole "what's up thing" is really foreboding, unless you are a great conversationalist it can be very difficult to turn that sort of conversation from "well i'm just doing homework" into something you guys are both mutually excited about. next time if you guys are aiming, either im him first with "HEY GUESS WHAT etc etc" see if he can share your joy in whatever you did or just relate some sort of fun experience you had that day.

as for questions, here are a couple off the top of my head. ask EXTREMELY random ones that are just like WTF and make sure to overwhelm/bombard him; it really helps to relieve tension.

-allergies
-how often he trims his nails
-is his second toe longer than his big toe
-grapefruit?
-sunsets or sunrise
-coffee or smoothies?
-least favorite book
-does he do his own laundry
-does he know how to fold clothes
-WHAT IS HIS FAVORITE BRAND OF SHAMPOO

yeah these questions are getting a bit effeminate but you get the point, if you can't get him to give you decent answers that promote a thriving conversation, then you might want to consider why you're in this relationship. it may be too early to think about it, but I would question why you like this guy or vice versa if you guys can't actually communicate on a daily basis. good luck!