I am in a relationship but I still love my EX who is not good for me!, Confused Options

[freakygurl811]

Hi There!

I am currently so down and confused in the situation I am tight now. So lets get started with the cause of my confusion.

I am German but lived in the Philippines for the past 14 years. While I was there I met a guy who is a DJ by profession. The first time I saw him I immediatley liked him, but he didn't because he had already a finace that was in another country. Our raltionship started like a fling, but we were good friends though. More like a "Pseudo relationship" until one day my feelings grew stronger and stronger for him and I made him choose between me and his fiance. Gladly he chose me and we moved-in in one house and stayed there together for 8 months. I was the one providing all his financial needs, food, clothes, cellphone just everything because he stopped working. I realized that this man is no good for my future because aside from he's not working he is also a real Gangster!

Now, Before I met this DJ I already met a Algerian guy in the internet and we also fell in love with each other though we havn't met personally. But when I met the DJ I forgot about the Algerian, since the DJ was half Philipino half Algerian too. (what a coincedence. lol)
I always promised the Algerian guy that once I am in Germany I am gonna visit him.

When I arrived here in Germany 7 months ago, my relationship was already on the rocks with the DJ. And I started chatting again with the Algerian guy, because I really needed to forget the DJ eventhough I still love him.

My feelings for the Algerian guy came back. So I went to Algeria to meet him personally. Everything was so fine and we love each other. Therefore, I broke up with the DJ.

Everyday he has been trying to contact me but I had to ignore him. But time to time I would still call him just to ask if he was doing good.

Until our communication ended for almost one month, until I received a text message from him saying that he wants me back and that he misses me. The next day I saw him performing live in youtube...and wow my feeling for him came all of a sudden back. I called him and we both cried on the phone.

After our conversation, I said to my self No! I can't continue my relationship with him because I plan to marry this Algerian guy soon. The next day I saw in a intersite pictures of him and another girl sweet together. It broke my heart and I've been crying all night eversince.

My feelings are like this...

I like the Algerian guy but I dont love him that much.

I love the DJ but I totally dislike him.

I hope you guys could help me because I am totally down.

[libertie]

First of all, welcome to CB! I'm surprised that in your first post, you've opened up quite a bit, but I suppose this isn't the first time this has happened.

If I'm being completely honest, it doesn't sound like you should be with either of these men. One of them isn't good for you, and if you don't love the other one enough now, you'll never be able to make it work. It sounds like you've already made your decision.