grieving Options

[deplorable]

i apologize, i am not normally one to ask advice from anonymous internet users, buy tomorrow it will be 4 yrs since my mother passed from breast cancer.i thought i could handle it, but this year feels especially hard. i feel like im spiraling in and out of reality and dreamland.

can anyone please give me some advice on how to handle this better... i can't let my family down right now.

thank you.

[superstitious]

Why do you think that this year is particularly more difficult to grieve than others? Is there something happening in your life right now that keeps reminding you of your mother?

I know that even though my mother and I have less than an ideal relationship, I'll think of her everyday after she passes. I know I feel that way about my grandmother (she's been dead for several years), who basically raised me. The only time it seems that I feel more sad about her is when something significant is happening in my life and I want so badly for her to be a part of it.

Sometimes what helps is to do something they would enjoy. Also, the winter season does bring out a bit of melancholy in some people. Not a big help, but it does happen. Get some fresh air, go for a walk every day. It's little, but helps some.

Talking with friends and family is great medicine as well. Perhaps someone else in your family is going through the same thing. It's possible to help someone else through their grieving process while helping yourself with your own.