change for love?, im in love with this chick..but she wants me to change. Options

[mauriciocruelty]

me & this chick went out for about a week, we broke up because she had family problems..in school we still acted like a couple [hold hands, kiss, etc.] but then we broke up for good, because of some stupid crap that i did. Now we've both talked about it & she wants me to change..
the reason is that im bisexual..& she wants me to change..this is what she told me.

"Okay change for me
be more of a man.
More manly.
When I see that you have changed
I'll give you that chance."



what do i do?

do i change for someone i love..or what?

[bobbyrocks15]

well if you love some enough then youll change for them =]

[MissHygienic]

well if you love some enough then youll change for them =]

This is the most absurd statement I've read in the time I've been on CreateBlog.

If she finds that she needs to change something about you, then you are obviously not good enough for her as you are, and that, my friend, is the least healthy way to begin a relationship. In other words, she's a bitch.

[bobbyrocks15]

This is the most absurd statement I've read in the time I've been on CreateBlog.

If she finds that she needs to change something about you, then you are obviously not good enough for her as you are, and that, my friend, is the least healthy way to begin a relationship. In other words, she's a bitch.

then i guess youve never loved some one before..

[MissHygienic]

then i guess youve never loved some one before..

I guess you've never had someone truly love you.

If the person loves me, he will not force me to bend over backwards to suit his tastes. If he can't accept my lifestyle and what I choose to do with my life, then he doesn't love me.

If you've changed for your partner, then I must say that this is pathetic.

[bobbyrocks15]

I guess you've never had someone truly love you.

If the person loves me, he will not force me to bend over backwards to suit his tastes. If he can't accept my lifestyle and what I choose to do with my life, then he doesn't love me.

If you've changed for your partner, then I must say that this is pathetic.

no way no way
your telling me
if the person you love gets into drugs
you just break it off
you dont ask them to stop or get help?

they should beable to change for you
no matter what the cost
or you change for them

[MissHygienic]

no way no way
your telling me
if the person you love gets into drugs
you just break it off
you dont ask them to stop or get help?

they should beable to change for you
no matter what the cost
or you change for them

That's an irrelevant example; you are trying to compare apples and oranges. If the circumstance is detrimental to someone's health/well-being, then you have to make adjustments, but you are not changing who you are. Drugs do not make up a human being. Your sexuality, on the other hand, hurts no one and no one should try to change such a thing. It's like asking someone, "Please stop being Caucasian, it hurts me."

[bobbyrocks15]

That's an irrelevant example; you are trying to compare apples and oranges. If the circumstance is detrimental to someone's health/well-being, then you have to make adjustments, but you are not changing who you are. Drugs do not make up a human being. Your sexuality, on the other hand, hurts no one and no one should try to change such a thing. It's like asking someone, "Please stop being Caucasian, it hurts me."

i knew you were gonna say that crap
and yeah your sexuality can hurt people
its ruined plenty of familys
my best friends dad is gay
and now his family fell apart

and you cant stop being white...
but you can stop being a homo

so its his choice
if he loves her enough
then he should beable to change
but if he doenst love her enough
then he shouldnt change

[MissHygienic]

i knew you were gonna say that crap
and yeah your sexuality can hurt people
its ruined plenty of familys
my best friends dad is gay
and now his family fell apart

and you cant stop being white...
but you can stop being a homo

so its his choice
if he loves her enough
then he should beable to change
but if he doenst love her enough
then he shouldnt change

Sexuality can hurt people only if the people receiving the news is narrow-minded. Your best friend's dad wasn't having sexual affairs within his family. Being in a relationship versus handling family relations is different.

"Stop being a homo?" Is this a joke? First of all, he's not a "homo," and secondly, that is almost offensive. I'll tell you that I won't stop being straight, just as he will not stop being bisexual.

No, your solution isn't to change who you are, your solution is to reassure her that even though you are bisexual, you are loyal to whomever you date. Trying to deny your sexuality for a girl is not the answer.

[bobbyrocks15]

Sexuality can hurt people only if the people receiving the news is narrow-minded. Your best friend's dad wasn't having sexual affairs within his family. Being in a relationship versus handling family relations is different.

"Stop being a homo?" Is this a joke? First of all, he's not a "homo," and secondly, that is almost offensive. I'll tell you that I won't stop being straight, just as he will not stop being bisexual.

No, your solution isn't to change who you are, your solution is to reassure her that even though you are bisexual, you are loyal to whomever you date. Trying to deny your sexuality for a girl is not the answer.

being bi and homo is pretty much the same thing..
and being straight is always the right answer
but hey he has to decide that one for himself..

[mauriciocruelty]

being bi and homo is pretty much the same thing..
and being straight is always the right answer
but hey he has to decide that one for himself..

umm being bi has nothing to do with
homosexuality
not to get rude

but look it up