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change for love?, im in love with this chick..but she wants me to change.
mauriciocruelty
post Dec 20 2007, 05:24 PM
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me & this chick went out for about a week, we broke up because she had family problems..in school we still acted like a couple [hold hands, kiss, etc.] but then we broke up for good, because of some stupid crap that i did. Now we've both talked about it & she wants me to change..
the reason is that im bisexual..& she wants me to change..this is what she told me.

"Okay change for me
be more of a man.
More manly.
When I see that you have changed
I'll give you that chance."



what do i do?

do i change for someone i love..or what?
 
 
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bobbyrocks15
post Dec 21 2007, 12:51 AM
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well if you love some enough then youll change for them =]
 
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post Dec 21 2007, 12:58 AM
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QUOTE(bobbyrocks15 @ Dec 21 2007, 12:51 AM) *
well if you love some enough then youll change for them =]

This is the most absurd statement I've read in the time I've been on CreateBlog.

If she finds that she needs to change something about you, then you are obviously not good enough for her as you are, and that, my friend, is the least healthy way to begin a relationship. In other words, she's a bitch.
 
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post Dec 21 2007, 03:23 PM
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QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Dec 21 2007, 01:58 AM) *
This is the most absurd statement I've read in the time I've been on CreateBlog.

If she finds that she needs to change something about you, then you are obviously not good enough for her as you are, and that, my friend, is the least healthy way to begin a relationship. In other words, she's a bitch.


omg.gif then i guess youve never loved some one before..
 
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post Dec 21 2007, 03:26 PM
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QUOTE(bobbyrocks15 @ Dec 21 2007, 03:23 PM) *
omg.gif then i guess youve never loved some one before..

I guess you've never had someone truly love you.

If the person loves me, he will not force me to bend over backwards to suit his tastes. If he can't accept my lifestyle and what I choose to do with my life, then he doesn't love me.

If you've changed for your partner, then I must say that this is pathetic.
 
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post Dec 21 2007, 03:57 PM
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QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Dec 21 2007, 04:26 PM) *
I guess you've never had someone truly love you.

If the person loves me, he will not force me to bend over backwards to suit his tastes. If he can't accept my lifestyle and what I choose to do with my life, then he doesn't love me.

If you've changed for your partner, then I must say that this is pathetic.


no way no way
your telling me
if the person you love gets into drugs
you just break it off
you dont ask them to stop or get help?

they should beable to change for you
no matter what the cost
or you change for them
 
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post Dec 21 2007, 04:54 PM
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QUOTE(bobbyrocks15 @ Dec 21 2007, 03:57 PM) *
no way no way
your telling me
if the person you love gets into drugs
you just break it off
you dont ask them to stop or get help?

they should beable to change for you
no matter what the cost
or you change for them

That's an irrelevant example; you are trying to compare apples and oranges. If the circumstance is detrimental to someone's health/well-being, then you have to make adjustments, but you are not changing who you are. Drugs do not make up a human being. Your sexuality, on the other hand, hurts no one and no one should try to change such a thing. It's like asking someone, "Please stop being Caucasian, it hurts me."
 
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post Dec 21 2007, 05:31 PM
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QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Dec 21 2007, 05:54 PM) *
That's an irrelevant example; you are trying to compare apples and oranges. If the circumstance is detrimental to someone's health/well-being, then you have to make adjustments, but you are not changing who you are. Drugs do not make up a human being. Your sexuality, on the other hand, hurts no one and no one should try to change such a thing. It's like asking someone, "Please stop being Caucasian, it hurts me."



i knew you were gonna say that crap stubborn.gif
and yeah your sexuality can hurt people
its ruined plenty of familys
my best friends dad is gay
and now his family fell apart

and you cant stop being white...
but you can stop being a homo

so its his choice
if he loves her enough
then he should beable to change
but if he doenst love her enough
then he shouldnt change
 
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post Dec 21 2007, 06:16 PM
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QUOTE(bobbyrocks15 @ Dec 21 2007, 05:31 PM) *
i knew you were gonna say that crap stubborn.gif
and yeah your sexuality can hurt people
its ruined plenty of familys
my best friends dad is gay
and now his family fell apart

and you cant stop being white...
but you can stop being a homo

so its his choice
if he loves her enough
then he should beable to change
but if he doenst love her enough
then he shouldnt change

Sexuality can hurt people only if the people receiving the news is narrow-minded. Your best friend's dad wasn't having sexual affairs within his family. Being in a relationship versus handling family relations is different.

"Stop being a homo?" Is this a joke? First of all, he's not a "homo," and secondly, that is almost offensive. I'll tell you that I won't stop being straight, just as he will not stop being bisexual.

No, your solution isn't to change who you are, your solution is to reassure her that even though you are bisexual, you are loyal to whomever you date. Trying to deny your sexuality for a girl is not the answer.
 

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mauriciocruelty   change for love?   Dec 20 2007, 05:24 PM
PandaKnight14   1: You can't change bisexuality. 2: Her reque...   Dec 20 2007, 09:00 PM
snoopdog   i think ur to gay to change =D lol playing i unno ...   Dec 20 2007, 09:16 PM
BrandonSaunders   Regardless of what it is kid, don't change for...   Dec 20 2007, 09:41 PM
Call911Quick   How could you even be sexually attracted to anothe...   Dec 20 2007, 10:12 PM
snoopdog   hmm now that i hear that you could masturbate with...   Dec 20 2007, 10:32 PM
bobbyrocks15   well if you love some enough then youll change for...   Dec 21 2007, 12:51 AM
MissHygienic   QUOTE(bobbyrocks15 @ Dec 21 2007, 12:51 A...   Dec 21 2007, 12:58 AM
bobbyrocks15   QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Dec 21 2007, 01:58 A...   Dec 21 2007, 03:23 PM
MissHygienic   QUOTE(bobbyrocks15 @ Dec 21 2007, 03:23 P...   Dec 21 2007, 03:26 PM
bobbyrocks15   QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Dec 21 2007, 04:26 P...   Dec 21 2007, 03:57 PM
MissHygienic   QUOTE(bobbyrocks15 @ Dec 21 2007, 03:57 P...   Dec 21 2007, 04:54 PM
bobbyrocks15   QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Dec 21 2007, 05:54 P...   Dec 21 2007, 05:31 PM
MissHygienic   QUOTE(bobbyrocks15 @ Dec 21 2007, 05:31 P...   Dec 21 2007, 06:16 PM
bobbyrocks15   QUOTE(MissHygienic @ Dec 21 2007, 07:16 P...   Dec 21 2007, 07:04 PM
mauriciocruelty   QUOTE(bobbyrocks15 @ Dec 21 2007, 08:04 P...   Dec 21 2007, 08:01 PM
doughnut   its not like youre gay, i dont see why that girl w...   Dec 21 2007, 01:08 AM
IGetSex   Haha, I highly doubt that you love her. Besides ...   Dec 21 2007, 01:26 AM
stacygreen   QUOTE(IGetSex @ Dec 20 2007, 10:26 PM) Be...   Dec 21 2007, 02:25 AM
mauriciocruelty   Thanks alot, not it seems.. that well maybe yall a...   Dec 21 2007, 12:12 PM
IGetSex   QUOTE(mauriciocruelty @ Dec 21 2007, 12:1...   Dec 21 2007, 02:02 PM
reptilia   Please merge this with finals & love!   Dec 21 2007, 12:23 PM
mauriciocruelty   i talked to her today & she said that the rea...   Dec 21 2007, 05:56 PM
reptilia   QUOTE(mauriciocruelty @ Dec 21 2007, 05:5...   Dec 21 2007, 07:44 PM
S-Majere   Personally, I found someone who loved me for being...   Dec 21 2007, 08:08 PM
mauriciocruelty   yeah, thanks! i kinda found out the hard way ...   Dec 21 2007, 08:11 PM
S-Majere   You should be proud of yourself for making the dec...   Dec 21 2007, 08:25 PM
mauriciocruelty   THANKS s-majere   Dec 21 2007, 08:28 PM
RockItStudios   get some brains and come back-then we'll talk....   Dec 21 2007, 10:39 PM
rosemary27   QUOTE(mauriciocruelty @ Dec 20 2007, 05:2...   Jan 5 2008, 04:25 AM
vietbabiiix3   Youuu can lose your pride over someone you love, b...   Jan 5 2008, 10:06 AM
ZaraS   You can't just change your sexuality. And it s...   Jan 5 2008, 11:06 AM
Fawaz   I know you can't change your sexuality, but th...   Jan 5 2008, 01:28 PM


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