breaking your hymen, virginity Options

[pettedpaccha]

Hi,
im new and have a very seneitive question for you all to answer. I'm still a virgin but i won't tell you how old as it's quite embarrassing really. It's not that i'm frigid or anything just that i've never had a boyfriend that lasted long enough, i had a hard time through school and sturggled with anorexia from very early on and so found it difficult to have a lasting relationship.

Thing is i really really need to lose my virginity now as it's became a really big issue for me, i'm scared to get close to any guy now for fear of him finding it out and thinking i'm a total loser or something, so i've been thinking about buying a dildo or something to break my hymen for myself, so then i don't have to worry and could simply get a boyfriend and enjoy a proper sex life like someone normal.

Please don't be harsh with me, i'm very sensitive and i guess niave. I've looked at pics of what hymen looks like and checked my own but i'd like to know if anyone can suggest a site or something that shows what your supposed to look like down there after lossing virginity and hymen is gone. Please help, and thanks in advance!!!

[S-Majere]

This made me really sad when I was reading your post, pettedpaccha.

I'm 20 this year and I'm still a virgin - I'm so proud of that fact.

There is nothing to be ashamed of, and certainly no rush to deflower yourself. Thinking that by losing your virginity will give you more confidence and self esteem is worrying - in fact it may well have the exact opposite effect. Using sex as a means to an end (in your case self confidence by the sound of things) is very unwise and will only end poorly.

Find yourself a loving gentleman and see where that leads before you jump without looking where you're going.