Should I be concerned? Options

[Ashley_Brook]

I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now and everything has been great so far. I have been spending weekends over at his place since. Well we had planned on me coming over this weekend as usual and he sends me a message that reads.

"Ok I don't want you to get mad but my friend Stephanie is going to stay at my house this weekend. I haven't gotten to see or hang out with her in over 2 months and this is the only way she can come here. Her boyfriend is dropping her off on his way to Fort Wayne and then coming back on Sunday. So she's staying the night. I wanted to tell you because I didn't want you to think I was hiding someone behind your back."

Okay, I'm I'm thinking, "Ooookay..." and I sent him a message back saying, "So you don't want me to come over this weekend?" and then his next message was, "Don't you have all next week off work?" and then I replied, "Yes." and then he said, "Well you could stay a few days through the week." I told him that was okay.

Okay so I haven't met this girl yet, but I have heard him talk about how they are friends and have been for a long time. I have been to her myspace and she does have a boyfriend who she seems really into, I convinced myself that it was fine and that I shouldn't be worried, but now I'm wondering. I asked 4 of my other friends about this and they all think it's suspicious that he wants to exclude me out of picture for when she's coming over. They said, "Well if they were just friends, he wouldn't have a problem with you coming over anyways."

So I sent him another message saying, "Would it be cool if I come over this weekend anyways and we could all hang out because next week seems too far away." and now i'm waiting for a response from him.

I just want to know what you all think. Sorry this is long.

[MissHygienic]

Let's see: her boyfriend is the one dropping her off knowing that she's going to be staying at a guy's house, and you seem to be the only one out of the four people to have a problem with it. If he cheats on you like this, then why would you even want to be with him?

[Ashley_Brook]

Let's see: her boyfriend is the one dropping her off knowing that she's going to be staying at a guy's house, and you seem to be the only one out of the four people to have a problem with it. If he cheats on you like this, then why would you even want to be with him?

She could just as easily make up some story to her bf saying that I live with him and make him that I, his gf, would be there the whole time. Guys, as insecure as I may sound in these posts, I'm really not. I have been with plenty of guys who I could trust and did trust, and I have also been with guys who I trusted and they betrayed my trust. I'm not insecure and suspecting, but I'm also not a naive dumb girl standing in the dark to be cheated on over and over again.

Just as much as you can't be paranoid in a relationship, you also can't be too gullible. Anyone with experience in love life will tell you that.