Should I be concerned? Options

[Ashley_Brook]

I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now and everything has been great so far. I have been spending weekends over at his place since. Well we had planned on me coming over this weekend as usual and he sends me a message that reads.

"Ok I don't want you to get mad but my friend Stephanie is going to stay at my house this weekend. I haven't gotten to see or hang out with her in over 2 months and this is the only way she can come here. Her boyfriend is dropping her off on his way to Fort Wayne and then coming back on Sunday. So she's staying the night. I wanted to tell you because I didn't want you to think I was hiding someone behind your back."

Okay, I'm I'm thinking, "Ooookay..." and I sent him a message back saying, "So you don't want me to come over this weekend?" and then his next message was, "Don't you have all next week off work?" and then I replied, "Yes." and then he said, "Well you could stay a few days through the week." I told him that was okay.

Okay so I haven't met this girl yet, but I have heard him talk about how they are friends and have been for a long time. I have been to her myspace and she does have a boyfriend who she seems really into, I convinced myself that it was fine and that I shouldn't be worried, but now I'm wondering. I asked 4 of my other friends about this and they all think it's suspicious that he wants to exclude me out of picture for when she's coming over. They said, "Well if they were just friends, he wouldn't have a problem with you coming over anyways."

So I sent him another message saying, "Would it be cool if I come over this weekend anyways and we could all hang out because next week seems too far away." and now i'm waiting for a response from him.

I just want to know what you all think. Sorry this is long.

[MissHygienic]

Okay, to me, you're being excessively paranoid and irrational and untrusting. What are you worried about, exactly? I'm not seeing the issue. He's taken by you and he even sent you a message telling you this; she's taken because her boyfriend will be dropping her off. What's wrong with lending a room to someone of the opposite sex for the weekend? He probably doesn't want you there to make her feel uncomfortable because she will be his guest.

Stop being paranoid and gain some trust. God.

[misoshiru]

He probably doesn't want you there to make her feel uncomfortable because she will be his guest.