Am I cheating? Options

[brestar]

My current boyfriend and I just moved in togehter about 3 months ago. We are living in a new area so we are both making new friends. I made a couple of friends at work, and I spend a lot of time at one of the girl's house. Now she is a little older than me, but she has a sister in law who is my age. Her sis in law hangs with a lot of guys, and there is a really handsome (slightly younger than me) guy who's "diggin' me." When I'm over at my friends house I'm always flirting with him, and when I'm at work I text him from her phone so my boyfriend doesn't find out. I'm not the type of chick to cheat, so am I headed down the wrong path?

[Uronacid]

Alright,

It's one thing to "talk" to another guy, but you're obviously leading on this guy you're flirting with. I personally don't care if Holly talks to, texts, is with other guys. I care when she's flirting or questioning our relationship because of some other guy.

Look, it's not fair that your boyfriend gets upset when he sees you talk to other guys; however, based upon your actions, he may just have reasons he can't explain. It's not hard to tell when you're girlfriend is treating a guy she knows as something more than a friend. Maybe he receives that vibe when you're talking to guys, a flirtatious vibe.

I have a few questions for you. Do you have male role model (an older brother or father)? Women who don't grow up with a male role model often have a difficult time interacting with men on a level that is strictly friendship. Having a brother or close father figure allows you to develop that ability. My sisters, for example, can be-friend just about any guy and stay friends with them. I have played a major role in all of their lives. In return, having three sisters has given me the ability to interact when women in a way that is strictly friendship. We all have practice being friends with each other. If you didn't have a male figure in your life, it's possible that you may have a difficult time being strictly friends with another guy.

I'm just throwing somethign out there.

To answer your question: Yes, I think you're cheating (not physically though). I think you should stop leading that other guy on. You're being more of a jerk by talking to him than you are by not talking to him (if you know what I mean). Also, start working on the problems you have with your current boyfriend.