untitled[no words can explain] the title, love,confusion, Options

[neezy1126]

okay so lets start from the beginning. there was this guy i used to see when i was younger and i always thought he was cute..but never thought he would notice me. that was when i was 13. then we i was 16 i met him finally and come to find out he was interested in me. but come to find out what came along with being with him was a child and another one on the way by the same girl. when she found out about me and him she went banannas! but i could understand where she was coming from on that part. but neways i was so love stuck on this guy that it didnt bother me that he had a kid and another soon to be. so we were together and went out for about 4 months during those months..it was coo for me...he came over my house everyday and we went out to parties together too. he did take me to family events but not the ones where his parents would be. i would always ask him if he has told his parents about me and he would always say yes of course. but i never asked him to introduce me.i wanted him to do it. but ne ways then one day my mother seen him and his babysmomma together with his kids at a park and she got mad and told me i had to break it off with him because she didnt like the fact that he was still being seen with her like that. so i did. it hurt so bad but i moved on...well now i started hanging out with his friends and i seen him for the first time in a yr. and now he's trying to start things where they left off. my mom is okay with it just as long as he proves that he does care about me and isnt just using me...[and yes we did have sex] so that's what my mom thinks thats where the "using" is being done...well ne ways i really dont know what to do.and i just want some kind of advice it can be negative or positive i just want to see how you guys really think about my situation. sorry for it being so long...thanks

[S-Majere]

neezy1126; it sounds a messy involvement at best. This guy has a family (whether you want to refer to it as this or not) and he has responsibilities toward them - and toward you. So far, I don't think he's shown you much maturity, stability or love. Your mother is worried about him 'using' you - and rightly so I think. You may not like their advice, but parents are worldly wise and have been teenagers themselves! Young love can be particularly consuming and can blind you to the reality of your situation.

My advise? Stop hanging around with his friends, stop seeing him; and leave him to patch things up in his life before he gets involved with yours.