How to deal with my boyfriend going to a strip club, Help...! |
 Nov 24 2007, 09:42 AM
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for several months now. We're both in college. He recently told me that he went to a strip club for a friend's birthday this summer (before we started going out). For some reason though, this REALLY bothers me, even thought it was before we started dating.
For one thing I guess it made me feel really insecure about my body.. I mean.. if he's been around a bunch of beautiful naked women (it was a really famous strip club) why would he want me? I'm afraid of being constantly compared with them, even though I know I'm not bad looking. He even got a naked lap dance (in his words: "she had her shoes on"). And in that particular club I know you're allowed to touch (I don't know if he did and I'm afraid to ask). He even told me she took his shirt off and kissed him (sounding pretty pleased about it too). I don't know what to think and I KNOW I shouldn't be this bothered by it, it was before we started going out!! But for some reason I can't stop thinking about it. I know pretty much all men go at one point and all that but this just won't go away. I keep thinking of him surrounded by naked women and I just get this sick feeling in my stomach. I have tried talking with him about it but it just led to a fight since he (rightly) sees nothing wrong with it. After all, we weren't even dating at the time. Help!! How do I deal?? (please nothing like "just get over it" I've tried that) How should I think about this to make it bother me less? |
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Nov 25 2007, 07:08 PM
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 Ms. Granger Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 735 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 165,238 |
Dear lord, people. He wasn't bringing it up to make her jealous or anything, and I'm sure their conversation led into it...they were just talking, and it came up. Normal conversation. I'm sure he didn't say, "You know, one time I went to this really cool strip club and there were all these girl all up on me and they were soooo much hotter than you." Seriously. Stop blaming the guy, who cares. Someone else said that he doesn't see them as girls, he sees them as objects, and he's right. If he rubs up on a stripper, that doesn't mean he likes her, that means he has a boner and there's a naked girl in front of him. I don't think too many guys seriously want to have a relationship with a stripper. It's completely different. Being beautiful is better than being hot.
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arianith How to deal with my boyfriend going to a strip club Nov 24 2007, 09:42 AM
RAWRstephishere If he really wanted "a bunch of beautiful nak... Nov 24 2007, 10:04 AM eiltranna I almost know the same thing you're going thro... Nov 24 2007, 11:43 AM S-Majere Well for starters - isn't he being a bit cruel... Nov 24 2007, 01:01 PM xFaith Think about it, if you would go to a stripclub (wi... Nov 24 2007, 01:20 PM jeanna welcome to life
atleast he's telling you about... Nov 24 2007, 01:26 PM brooklyneast05 if it was before u were even together i can't ... Nov 24 2007, 01:37 PM
misoshiru QUOTE(brooklyneast05 @ Nov 25 2007, 02:37... Nov 25 2007, 12:12 AM Moderator As Faith said, going out to a strip club is just f... Nov 24 2007, 01:46 PM Synesthesia QUOTE(xFaith @ Nov 24 2007, 01:20 PM) And... Nov 24 2007, 01:57 PM 2ndChance I know you feel like you want to keep your boyfrie... Nov 24 2007, 03:43 PM MissHygienic Are you seriously getting worried because your boy... Nov 24 2007, 05:10 PM RyanWasHere Personally...I'm just wondering why he even fe... Nov 24 2007, 05:40 PM MissHygienic QUOTE(RyanWasHere @ Nov 24 2007, 05:40 PM... Nov 24 2007, 05:46 PM S-Majere Actually, I do agree with you, RyanWasHere - if a ... Nov 24 2007, 06:14 PM arianith Thanks guys. I feel a lot better now, some of that... Nov 24 2007, 06:30 PM NoSex Oh, Jesus. I went to a strip club a few months ago... Nov 24 2007, 08:00 PM aestheticYOU QUOTEStripper tits smell like talcum powder and hy... Nov 24 2007, 08:07 PM LadiieKay-Mamii did he bring up this topic to get you jealous? Nov 25 2007, 05:38 PM gr00vyswordsman and he's with you, you guys have a connection ... Nov 25 2007, 10:04 PM |
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