kissed a friend Options

[yaamakoh]

i kissed a friend of mine about a month ago... now i'm starting to feel too attached when i shouldn't be.
the kiss turned into a heated "discussion" and it wasn't just once, it was maybe a few times.
we still act as friends, and now it seems that i care about her more than i should. i was about to pop the question to engage into a relationship, but i'm still suffering from my last relationship that i had.
i'm still debating whether this is going to work out, or will it be a failure like the other past relationships i had. i don't want to get into any more drama than i should, but at the same time this girl has something to her that keeps me interested.
i'm not sure if i should wait, remain the same, or if i should start giving hints to start a relationship.
also we playfully flirt like, "did you miss me?", "why didn't you call?"
granted friends could say that to each other too, but now it seems like we are talking a bit more and more than before.

[Just_Dream]

I know we've talking about this before, but here's my two cents, despite the fact that I'm not experienced in this kind of situation.


Knowing the kind of person that you are and given what you've described her to be, it's obvious that you two have a lot in common. I know I've told you to "seize the opportunity", but you're right in the sense that you're risking a friendship. But at the same time she might be taken by someone else. You really have to consider how much she really means to you -- which is a great deal, considering what you did. Plus, you kissed her. Girls are trick. She acted like everything was normal -- that could mean two things: either she's interested since she reciprocated the kiss (or well, I assume so), or she didn't want to destroy the friendship and hoped that you would forget as well, since neither of you two acknowledged anything romantic going on.

Now here's the other tricky part - she says she misses you and a bunch of other stuff. Could this be hinting that she indeed DOES miss you, and hopes that you'll take the hint and ask her out? Or maybe she's just messing, since you two are pretty flirt.

But honestly, what with the amount of time you spent with her and what you've done for her (we talked about this earlier), I think she should realize just how much she means to you. And it would be unfortunate if she does end up with someone else.

However, I still stand by my idea that you should seize the opportunity only because you feel so comfortable around her and she treats you more sincerely compared to her other guy friends. Right? It seems like there's definitely a strong romantic connection between you two, beyond friendship. You could wait it out, but playing these kind of games/hinting with her might push you past your limit, if you know what I mean.

<EDIT> - And maybe you both might be pretty lonely, considering how much you two have dated other people, it's definitely a different feeling being alone. I don't know if what's being reciprocated between you two is being on the rebound, but considering how long you two have known each other, it's a little tricky. Sometimes there's just a strong connection that you can't push aside and say that because you feel like you're on the rebound, you feel that way...
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But you're a really sweet guy and she's missing out if she does turn you down. Wish you the best. I'll talk to you later about this. lol I took a nap and now I'm awake again, but you'll probably off to work now.