A lover suffering from alzheimers falls in love with another., sadd. Options

[pandamonium]

I wanted this to be in the relationship section cause this isnt really big news. It deals with relationships more than news, but if you move it thats ok.

Well for those of you that dont know, Sandra Day O'Connor retired because of her husband that suffers from alzheimers.

But the thing is her husband forgot that he was married and fell in love with someone who also suffers from alzheimers. Sandra said herself said that she is happy that her husband is doing well and happy, and that is all she cares about.

Her son says that his father acts like a teenager when he is with his new lover.

but isnt that the saddest thing ever .....

your husband forgets about you and falls in love with someone else . I couldnt imagine how i would feel. But I wanna give her a hug so bad. thats just so sad.

what do you think about your significant other forgetting about you because of alzheimers?

Retired Justice Sandra Day O'Connor's husband, who suffers from Alzheimer's, has found a new romance, and his happiness is a relief to his wife, an Arizona TV report reveals.

The report, which quoted the couple's oldest son, Scott O'Connor, focused on Alzheimer's patients who forget their spouses and fall in love with someone else. Experts say the scenario is somewhat common.


Offering a glimpse into the private life of a woman who has remained on the public stage since her Supreme Court retirement in 2006 to care for her husband, the report spotlighted John O'Connor, 77. He and the woman, referred to only as "Kay," live at a Phoenix facility for people with Alzheimer's.

"Mom was thrilled that Dad was relaxed and happy and comfortable living here and wasn't complaining," Scott, 50, told KPNX-Channel 12 in Phoenix in a story that aired Thursday. The station is owned by Gannett, as is USA TODAY.

Though Sandra Day O'Connor, 77, did not appear in the television report, it gave a rare look at the life of the nation's first female justice. The family's willingness to highlight an aspect of a heart-wrenching illness recalled O'Connor's decision in 1994 to go public with her feelings about breast cancer.

In a speech to the National Coalition for Cancer Survivorship, she spoke about discovering the cancer in 1988 and undergoing a mastectomy.

Scott compared his father to "a teenager in love" and said, "For Mom to visit when he's happy -- visiting with his girlfriend, sitting on the porch swing holding hands," was a relief after a painful period.

The O'Connors, who have three children, met at Stanford Law School and married in 1952. John O'Connor left a partnership at a Phoenix law firm to come to Washington with his wife in 1981. He worked for D.C. law firms but was limited in his ability to take on matters that could come before the justices.

As her husband's disease became more difficult to handle, O'Connor retired.

She was traveling Monday and could not be reached for comment.

Peter Reed, senior director of programs at the Alzheimer's Association in Chicago, said the frequency of Alzheimer's patients forming new romantic relations is hard to estimate. "But the underlying causes of this are fairly common," he said. Though patients lose their cognitive abilities and experience mood changes, "one of the things that doesn't go away is the need for relationships."

"Justice O'Connor is certainly to be commended for -- raising awareness and helping to reduce stigmas," he said.

Lisa O'Toole, manager at the center where John O'Connor resides, said the facility participated in the TV report "to educate the public about the disease process."

Reed said 5 million Americans have the progressive brain disease that affects memory and behavior.

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[tokyo-rose]

Wow, that is pretty sad. I didn't think a situation like that could happen. I'm sorry it happened to Sandra Day O'Connor, but I'm glad she's trying to have a positive attitude about it.

I would definitely be sad if that happened to me, and maybe resentful of the person my significant other fell in love with. But ultimately I'd try to adopt the same attitude as Sandra Day O'Connor did.