"Slut"., hmmm Options

[vehvih]

Do they bother you?
Are you disgusted by them?
Have you been called one?
How do you DEFINE the word slut?


Yes, I am sexual active. And no, I do not call myself a slut. And yeah, I don't a boyfriend. And yeah, it bothers me whenever girls call each other slut.. the terminology 'slut' has been defined like, over and over again.. mainly for the purpose of keeping the damn fundamentals on how women should be.

Well basically, I want to point out using the terminology 'slut' downgrades women, you don't have to be a boy to downgrade women because if you believe so I would slap the fck out of you. And it bothers the hell out of me a girl can be called a slut if sexual active when she doesn't have a boyfriend, but it's ok for a boy to be so because he's a boy. I've three girl friends who have gone pregnant, and don't you even dare call them sluts, and they have been because of that.

Now here's the real question:

How do you suppose to call a girl a slut if you don't really know how they are sexually active?
Are you going to change the way you treat a girl if you believe she's a 'slut' when she doesn't have sex with you?
Are you going to let your own personal beliefs affect some other people when they have nothing to do with you?

DISCUSS!

This topic's purpose is to widen girls AND boys knowledge about women, and to stop sexism AND generalizations. I hope it works..

[transcendentalis...]

How do you suppose to call a girl a slut if you don't really know how they are sexually active?

if you don't know, then don't say it and mean it. if you say it and don't mean it, then make sure they know.. i don't completely understand what this question is asking.

Are you going to change the way you treat a girl if you believe she's a 'slut' when she doesn't have sex with you?

can't really say, because i don't try to get girls to have sex with me.

however, when other people, even my close friends, tell me that a girl is a slut without justifying it, i'm not going to believe it. saying "she's skanky" doesn't work for me. however, if someone i know was really affected because some chick was sleeping around with her boyfriend and our friends, then ... yeah, i'd think she was a slut.

off the top of my head, i know two girls closely affiliated with some of my friends who've definitely slept around with a good number of my friends. for one girl, i hate her guts. the other one, not so much. it really just depends on the person.

also, i'm horribly biased like that because the girl i can't stand used one of my close friends for sex, threw him off, and then used my best friend for sex, and then used another one of my close friends again. she ruined a lot of close relationships for me for a couple months.

Are you going to let your own personal beliefs affect some other people when they have nothing to do with you?

theoretically, i try not to.
both girls that have gotten around have had everything to do with me and my relationships with others. one of my relationships isn't totally repaired still, so i guess you can say it affected other people... but since her sleeping around did have to do with me personally, i doubt that this applies to the question.

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on the rare occasion when i get called a slut, whether jokingly or seriously, it doesn't bother me very much. i know i'm not, and the people whose opinions i care about know i'm not either. sure, i'll flirt with people because it's what i naturally do, but if you even start me talking about my boyfriend or if you know what's gone down between us even partially - it's obvious that i wouldn't be with anyone else.