Would you get into a relationship, With a soldier going to Iraq?? Options

[*icecreamisyummy*]

So this guy ive been talking to has asked me to be his gf twice now. the first time i said no, because i hadn't seen him in a while. Now he jsut found out he'll be sent back to Iraq in about 2 weeks and asked to be my bf again...but in much serious terms. I really do like him and he really likes me. My best friend is against it and doesnt want me doing it because of the emotional impact it will cause.

now the other problem is, i just got otu of a serious relationship about a month or so ago. me and my ex still hang out* and what not. we both love one another, but we've had our issues and he said theres no chance between us now after what happened this past weekend. in a way i wanna believe him, but idk if he's being serious or not... i mean, he keeps showing up at my house he keeps calling.

so do i get into a relationship with someone who will be able to give me everythign and treat me how i should be treated, after he gets bck from iraq, or do i just sit around waiting for the guy i love to come to his senses?

of course theres more to all this but i dont want to bore you guys.

[Insurmountable]

I would do it, I kind of looked at it in terms if Josh was ever sent over there of course I would remain in a relationship with him.

But with your current situation I would defiently say the Soldier, but first before you jump in to that relationship does he know what went on between you and your ex? And that you still have feelings for him? But yet there isn't a chance for you guys to ever get back together.
Because it would really suck to hurt the soldier if he had to go overseas and you were in a relationship with him and possibly cheated on him with your ex. It would tear him to pieces. The lines of communication need to be completely open and you need to tell this guy the whole situation about whats going on with your love life.
Also I don't think you can say your still in love with your ex, you just deeply like him because I just don't think you can sit around and love someone and like this other guy.

So in all seriousness, ask yourself now.

Do you still want to be with your ex?
Do you really still love him?
Do you think its right to lead this other guy along and possibly really hurt him in the end by continuing?
Do you think its right to hang out with your ex boyfriend and still let the feelings trail on while this other guy your letting him have feelings for you?

[Uronacid]

I would do it, I kind of looked at it in terms if Josh was ever sent over there of course I would remain in a relationship with him.

But with your current situation I would defiently say the Soldier, but first before you jump in to that relationship does he know what went on between you and your ex? And that you still have feelings for him? But yet there isn't a chance for you guys to ever get back together.
Because it would really suck to hurt the soldier if he had to go overseas and you were in a relationship with him and possibly cheated on him with your ex. It would tear him to pieces. The lines of communication need to be completely open and you need to tell this guy the whole situation about whats going on with your love life.
Also I don't think you can say your still in love with your ex, you just deeply like him because I just don't think you can sit around and love someone and like this other guy.

So in all seriousness, ask yourself now.

Do you still want to be with your ex?
Do you really still love him?
Do you think its right to lead this other guy along and possibly really hurt him in the end by continuing?
Do you think its right to hang out with your ex boyfriend and still let the feelings trail on while this other guy your letting him have feelings for you?

Yeah... :P