how long is too long? Options

[teeners4]

my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year now.
we have yet to say "i love you"
for the first few months it was alright actually it was good to not say "i love you" because every other couple has and we rather wait until it is "real"
but now it's been a year and we haven't said it yet.
i've brought it up yet and he said he does like me a lot, but he isn't going to marry me. and in his perspective he won't call it love until he knows he wants to marry the girl.

so i don't know. i think i love him. but i guess we just see it differently. i don't think i'm going to marry him either. i mean we're both only 18 right now. just started university i don't want to plan that far ahead.

but i don't want to be in a relationship where it's not going to progress anymore emotionally.

so how long is too long for you?

[S-Majere]

My boyfriend had crushed on me for three years before I started dating him, so for him his love was quite 'mature' and he started to say he loved me several weeks into our (still ongoing!) relationship. That kinda wigged me out a little bit and I refused to believe him until I could return that sentiment in kind. For us, a mutual proclamation of love was about a few months of dating. By dating I mean seeing each other every day.

For you, you might want to really asses how you feel about this guy. Admittedly, it took me a long time to realise I loved, and still do, my boyfriend so it could be you're not yet 'there' emotionally.

But dating for a year and he hasn't said he loves you...it could be that he's just a bit shy to admit it. He hasn't broken up with you, has he? Perhaps you should take the plunge and really tell him how you feel.

Do you love him?