I have trouble socializing Options

[dododiva]

I'm bad at conversations.

I'm usually quiet and envious of those who have a lot confidence and can easily talk to everyone. Well, i am always cautious of what i say, i never want to say the wrong things-yet, i think i still do.

Also, I'm really really afraid of being alone with a person. I end up panicking, trying to figure out what to say or do. This is a problem because in the future, how will i talk to my (future)boyfriend? How will i make new friends?

Usually, i make friends through connections of i have other people become friends with me. I'm very very shy. And when people say "be yourself" I'm just like, "How?" because I don't know the real me.''

Sounds really lame, but hey, it's my problem.

[S-Majere]

I had this problem too when I was a bit younger. I suffered from a stutter too so any social engagements were really embarrassing!

You what know the best thing that helped was? Getting a job. I started as a Christmas temp at a well-known retail store and since then have gone on to become a duty manager - still working part time!

The fantastic thing about working in a shop is that you're forced into conversation with hundreds of different kinds of people every week. You'll get mardy ones, kind ones, indifferent ones, funny ones - and it all helps to build up your confidence when speaking to someone new.

I don't have much of a problem now. I still feel a little awkward on occasion; but my stutter disappeared not six months after starting work and only reappears now when I'm really excited or stressed over something!

Just one idea for you. :D