I have trouble socializing Options

[dododiva]

I'm bad at conversations.

I'm usually quiet and envious of those who have a lot confidence and can easily talk to everyone. Well, i am always cautious of what i say, i never want to say the wrong things-yet, i think i still do.

Also, I'm really really afraid of being alone with a person. I end up panicking, trying to figure out what to say or do. This is a problem because in the future, how will i talk to my (future)boyfriend? How will i make new friends?

Usually, i make friends through connections of i have other people become friends with me. I'm very very shy. And when people say "be yourself" I'm just like, "How?" because I don't know the real me.''

Sounds really lame, but hey, it's my problem.

[*karmakiller*]

I know exactly how you feel. I'm really awkward in social situations, but it's something that I've been working on. The first thing I can say to you is stop thinking about saying the wrong things. Usually you'll end up thinking "Oh, I shouldn't say this. I shouldn't say that." and you end up saying it, because it's the material in your head. I was always raised to be one of those don't speak unless spoken to people and my anxiety gets to me a lot in social situations, but I've been learning to not care as much about what other people think about me... so I say something stupid? They probably won't even remember it.

In my opinion, it's not something that anyone can give you "advice" about how to change it. You have to grow into your own and who you are. You have to learn to put yourself out there, and if someone doesn't accept it to move on. Learn to love who you are and other people will see that and think you're confident too.