my boyfriend issues., yes, i know you're all tired of hearing it but im so confused Options

[katelynlingenfel...]

So.. recently his friends have all turned on me and they make fun of me and stuff and he doesnt really stick up for me just kinda sighs and tells them to stop because he knows i expect him to. I mean.. he should right?

Also he also gets really mad at me and yells at me and calls me stupid, hopeless, blind, retarded and sometimes other things its just horrible. Then he tells me I dont treat him good enough just because I hang out with guys [most my friends are guys and they always have been]. He tells me I'm not being the best to him and that seriously hurts me.

He also thinks he's not doing anything wrong.. like at all.. like yelling at me and making me cry every day is healthy or something.

I talked to my mom about it and she told me that mental abuse is just as bad as physical but I dont see it as mental abuse.. he's good, sweet, caring, loving, kind, cuddly, and like a boyfriend most the time.. just not when he's around the friends that hate me/make fun of me. We've been together over half a year and all this stuff just started happening because his friends hate me now.

[Comptine]

I know that. Obviously, if you didn't you wouldn't be conflicted and compelled to stay.

But be honest with yourself, is the way he treating you right? Does him making you cry everyday seem like something a boyfriend should do?

Often times, mental abuse leads to physical abuse. The abuser degrades and lowers the other's self esteem until they have complete control over them. I'm not saying your boyfriend will definitely get physical but his behavior isn't healthy nor is it right and it's very troubling.

Your boyfriend isn't your boyfriend when he's around his friends. That means, he cares more about what his friends think than about you.

It will hurt and you'll miss him. But, in the end, you're saving yourself from a lot of pain that he'll purposefully inflict on you.