cheating..., when does it become cheating?? Options

[faydedprimadonna]

so my baby daddy and i got in a discussion about cheating... apparently it's ok in his eyes if leaving isn't something that you can do (due to children, financial reliance, you're dating a psycho, fear of violence, etc...) i want to know how other people see it... when is it cheating? is it ever ok? share it bitches!

[*Uronacid*]

I'm bored, so I'll be serious this time. Cheating is never right. You can cheat in different ways. It also comes from two different perspectives.

You can cheat from your own perspective by giving yourself spiritually or physically to someone.

Spiritually meaning, you're cheating by giving your heart to someone other than your significant other. Like when you're in a relationship with someone, and you like someone else. It's unfair to the person you're in the relationship with. You're cheating them out of your love, because you have feelings for someone else. Imagine how hurt the other person would feel if they found out. Chances are, they won't but technically you're cheating.

Physically meaning, when you give someone other than the individual who you are in a relationship with a touch that means more than friendship (Yes, any touch that says, "I like you more than a friend."). This is entirely relative to the individual doing the physical action. In tough times I could put my hand on your shoulder and comfort you as a friend, or I could put my hand on your shoulder and comfort you as more than that. It's the intent in this situation that matters. Are you touching because they are you're friend, or are you being physical as someone who is more than a friend?

Cheating is obviously less forgivable and more upsetting the more physical or severe it gets. I'm not saying that you have to worry about what you're doing all the time. I'm simply saying you should respect your partner and give them that special attention while keeping friends as friends and nothing more.

You're partners perspective of cheating matters too. Many people have a different perspectives on cheating. What I am writing is my perspective. It is merely my take on cheating. It matters because a relationship is about mutual respect. The best thing you can do is come to a mutual agreement with your partner about what cheating is. Talk about it.

[*Insurmountable*]

I'm bored, so I'll be serious this time. Cheating is never right. You can cheat in different ways. It also comes from two different perspectives.

You can cheat from your own perspective by giving yourself spiritually or physically to someone.

Spiritually meaning, you're cheating by giving your heart to someone other than your significant other. Like when you're in a relationship with someone, and you like someone else. It's unfair to the person you're in the relationship with. You're cheating them out of your love, because you have feelings for someone else. Imagine how hurt the other person would feel if they found out. Chances are, they won't but technically you're cheating.

Physically meaning, when you give someone other than the individual who you are in a relationship with a touch that means more than friendship (Yes, any touch that says, "I like you more than a friend."). This is entirely relative to the individual doing the physical action. In tough times I could put my hand on your shoulder and comfort you as a friend, or I could put my hand on your shoulder and comfort you as more than that. It's the intent in this situation that matters. Are you touching because they are you're friend, or are you being physical as someone who is more than a friend?

Cheating is obviously less forgivable and more upsetting the more physical or severe it gets. I'm not saying that you have to worry about what you're doing all the time. I'm simply saying you should respect your partner and give them that special attention while keeping friends as friends and nothing more.

You're partners perspective of cheating matters too. Many people have a different perspectives on cheating. What I am writing is my perspective. It is merely my take on cheating. It matters because a relationship is about mutual respect. The best thing you can do is come to a mutual agreement with your partner about what cheating is. Talk about it.

I agree with this completely.