do you want a baby?, at 17? Options

[jackizzle]

Am I crazy to want a baby if I'm only 17? I don't know, I had a dream about having a baby toddler last night, and I reallyyy want a baby for some reason. I don't have a boyfriend or anything, but I think the fact that having a baby you know that THAT baby loves you and it's a sure thing. Does anyone else really want a baby? Come on, there sooo cute and they love you. Haha, yea I just might be crazy. I just thought I'd ask anyone elses opinion. Thanks. [=

[cyb3r0ptik]

it's hard to be "financially ready" for a baby.
you could have a million dollars saved up and still not be financially ready.

it's not just the diapers or the formula that costs money.
you're constantly buying new clothes, bottles to cups, eventually baby food.
crib, mattress, new bed. you never ever get a break.

up every 2 hours to feed or to change them.
finishing school, or going to college can be a challenge, along with trying to hold a job at the same time.

i think the people who want kids at such young of an age, are completely selfish. they want a baby so they can have something for people to look at and say "oh how cute!". to show them off like a trophy.

i have yet to go into any public place and see a girl 18 and under, with any age of child in her arms, and that child be under control. whether it be the baby crying and mommy not taking care of it because she's too busy trying on the cute new shoes in the window, or the kid running up and down the isles destroying shelves while mommy looks at what kind of cereal the government gives her this month.

nevermind the fact that you'll never ever hear a guy say "you know what? i'm 17. i want a baby".
with that in mind, you have to think about the fact that if you have a baby at such a young age, no matter what the guy says about loving you forever and being with you forever... you're gonna have a 90% rate of baby daddy not being around.

It's not the financial stability that you need.
you can do it if you have to. i've seen it (on rare occasions).

it's the mental capacity that you need.

and i fail to see how at 17 years old, somebody... in fact, any body can say "i'm ready for a baby".

this is, by no means me saying that people under 20 having kids all equal bad parents. i've seen some 17-20 yr olds take care of their business. but more often than not, it turns out to be way more than they can handle, and mom and dad usually end up picking up the brunt of it and taking care of the kid(s), while miss 18 yr old goes out with her friends until 2 or 3 AM.

it's ... not fair to you, and it's most certainly not fair to the innocent life that you selfishly brought into this world.