"the tables have turned", another teenage girl boy situation to read about Options

[mytangerine]

so; this past summer i had a fling with a guy that lives only a block away from me. it was amazing & we got really close & i don't regret it at all & value him as a friend so much. so we're back in school now & we still talk & such, still close; but...
found out today that his friend is trying to hook him up with someone else. i feel super threatened. although we never went out i still feel as though if .. let's say if he was mormon, i should be considered his most favored wife. i am protective i guess & don't want any other chicks raining on my parade. i know that he is looking for a longer term relationship & we both know that i can't do that at this point in my life. but the thing is, i really love what we have. we really should be dating, but i just don't want the title since i don't want us to turn into a stereotypical same highschool boyfriend girlfriend situation. i am just really against that.
anyways, point being i've told him i could see us having an actual relationship in the near future, just not anytime too soon. but i don't know if he will wait since he probably thinks i am so flakey since i can't decide what i want i really don't want to lose him he means so much to me. he even has told me that the new girl is pretty decent competition. i think he told me this so that i'd step up my game a bit & be more possessive. i actually think that's what he wants, but he is also the type of guy that goes for something new a lot, pretty adventurous/risk taker. i am so confused. any advice would be nice. i know this is difficult to reply to, sorry, i just had to let it out hoping maybe some of you can relate

[queen]

i'm confused as to why you are against the "stereotypical same high school boyfriend girlfriend situation". what's so bad about that?

you're being a bit selfish at this point if you're expecting him to wait until you're ready, especially if he wants to try something with this other girl that may even benefit him in the long run.

i could understand why you'd be afraid of starting a long term relationship, but that's what commitment is. it comes with the risk. is he worth it?