Am I wasting my time?, 5 year relationship, give up now? Options

[msladyliberty]

Hello all!! This might be a little confusing, so I'm gonna try to keep it short and simple for you all.

It seems like every other year, my boyfriend gets into "flirty" conversations online with other girls. Somehow, I find out by accident (accidentally IM the "hey baby"). This has happened twice. He'd also talk to these girls hours on end on the phone while he was away (he's in the airforce).

I've let those 2 incidents go, because I felt that I didn't do enough on my part to love him, so I blamed myself. So 2 years past, and I just found out in June that he sent 2 dozen red roses to a Jonalyn in Hawaii (an ex-gf from like 8th grade, we're 23 and 24 now!). I was really upset this time because I actually thought he'd changed. On top of that, he "promised" me "twice," that he'd never do this again.

So, after the arguing, the fighting, the separation, then the breakup, we're back together. His reasons for doing this was because I wasn't "what he wanted me to be," yet he still begs for me to stay with him and work things out. I've been fooled and confused, yet I'm so in love with him. He promised he'd never do this again, and that he'll "really, really" change.

I really love this man, truly love him. I have changed dramatically since this has happened, and I've become this jealous, uptight, insecure person I swore I'd never be. He is truly an amazing person, yet I question my faith in us and I hate having doubts about it.

Question is:
Am I wasting my time with this man? I have given everything to him and sacrificed so much of my life and time for him. At 24, is he really being serious about us?

(I have never cheated on this man, never ever! I'm pretty damn loyal, besides I don't have time to cheat, I have to go to work and school!)

Your opinions are greatly appreciated, thank you for your time!

[leaveheralone]

First of all ew that girls looks like a f**king trash bag ho.

I understand what you're saying about the "not letting her win thing." I went through that with my current boyfriend. We broke up for about 5 or 6 months for a stupid reason. He went back to the Phils on like the 5th month that we weren't together, came back, called me up for lunch, showed me his camera, and voila all these pics of a bitch posing like a retard, hanging all over him. I was. so. angry. He loved me back then, I know he did. Anyway, I took him back, had him cheat on her with me, had him hate her, had him humiliate her, and basically I had my revenge. Anyway yeah next month is our 2 year anniversary!

I hope you have that revenge with that ugly Jonalyn bitch.

PS. Judging on your pic on myspace, you're about 10 levels higher than that trash bag ho.

[msladyliberty]

PS. Judging on your pic on myspace, you're about 10 levels higher than that trash bag ho.

awwww thanks hun!

My bf has a big trust issue with me. He's very insecure, and his reason is because I'm "pretty." I think to myself, "omg is he serious?" I know he's just concern for my safety at times, but it just went to far, I had no social life. It was hard to hang out with my friends by myself. I've even cared less about my looks just to prove to him that I'm serious about "us."

I think that's why he has a crush on this girl, 'cause he knows he can trust her. I have given him complete trust, EVEN when he has done this to me THREE TIMES (this time is the 4th), I still showed him respect and trust...but he can't do the same for me.

He's even said flat out, "When I'm over seas, I can't trust you." omg!!

I am really in love with this guy, because for some reason, I keep myself in this relationship, and I try so hard and given so much to this man who can't even give it back to me.

...love just sucks sometimes!...

And yes, we have had long long talks about it, except they turn into arguments in the end, and then it gets turned back around to me...why do guys do that? Make you feel guilty for their mistakes? errrrg...

You all have been a great help, and I appreciate you all sharing similar experiences with me. It kinda gives me hope for myself...and maybe one day, "diving back into the single life." I'll post back an update in the future.

Thanks again!