Am I wasting my time?, 5 year relationship, give up now? Options

[msladyliberty]

Hello all!! This might be a little confusing, so I'm gonna try to keep it short and simple for you all.

It seems like every other year, my boyfriend gets into "flirty" conversations online with other girls. Somehow, I find out by accident (accidentally IM the "hey baby"). This has happened twice. He'd also talk to these girls hours on end on the phone while he was away (he's in the airforce).

I've let those 2 incidents go, because I felt that I didn't do enough on my part to love him, so I blamed myself. So 2 years past, and I just found out in June that he sent 2 dozen red roses to a Jonalyn in Hawaii (an ex-gf from like 8th grade, we're 23 and 24 now!). I was really upset this time because I actually thought he'd changed. On top of that, he "promised" me "twice," that he'd never do this again.

So, after the arguing, the fighting, the separation, then the breakup, we're back together. His reasons for doing this was because I wasn't "what he wanted me to be," yet he still begs for me to stay with him and work things out. I've been fooled and confused, yet I'm so in love with him. He promised he'd never do this again, and that he'll "really, really" change.

I really love this man, truly love him. I have changed dramatically since this has happened, and I've become this jealous, uptight, insecure person I swore I'd never be. He is truly an amazing person, yet I question my faith in us and I hate having doubts about it.

Question is:
Am I wasting my time with this man? I have given everything to him and sacrificed so much of my life and time for him. At 24, is he really being serious about us?

(I have never cheated on this man, never ever! I'm pretty damn loyal, besides I don't have time to cheat, I have to go to work and school!)

Your opinions are greatly appreciated, thank you for your time!

[kenshinx001]

Bruce Lee once said "Love is not measured on how many breaths we take. It's measured on how much they take your breath away" ummm or something like that. Anyways I know what you're going through. Been there, done that. Talk. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Tell him that you're jealous and tell him how selfish you are. I don't think there's a reason for him to get mad at you if you tell him. He shouldn't be flirting in the first place anyway.

For me I think it's cute for a girl to get jealous(as long as it's not to the extreme). If I have a girl and she got jealous because of some girl I would tell it'll be ok and prove to her she is the only one... right on the spot. right in front of the girl she accused me of flirting.

In the anime Kenichi. One master told his disciple "How can there be love if there's no trust?" Trust is the main reason why relationships break. Try this: exchange and compare cellphone with him. look at his addressbook immediately. Exchange user ID and password to all his internet access(ie myspace etc.). With your level of relationship, you and your man should be as open as that. If he has problems with exchanging cellphones and stuff. Think logically. Ask him what is there to hide if you love me? If he said that you don't trust him, then tell him, "that's why I'm giving you all access to my personal stuff". anyways if you can work on those obstacles, I'm happy for you and Your man is THE MAN. he's 100% legit. desperately in love with you.

i hope my advice helps
ps no revenge(if u love a person. love him because u love him.)