OKay I need advide, GUY HELP PLEASEE Options

[Pumpx3itup]

okay this is going to be slightly confusing and
you need a summary of my bfs

#1 abused me
#2 used me
#3 pressured me
#4 loved me

okay, Soo I broke up with them all for obvious reasons except for 4
all he ever did was love me. and I broke up with him because someone started a rumor he just wanted in my pants and I got scared. so I ran.
But I really care about him but i'm really unstable and I don't know what to do I know he could help me heal. Ohh but main problem. ALL of my friends hate him and they got mad that i talk to him. but When i was in his arms I felt soo happy and safe. and happy and I aren't usually togetehr in a sentance. I'm battling depression, and a self harm addiction. I just want some advice from people who havent heard the rumors and maybe know how i feel

kthnx♥

ask anything you like if I left stuff out.

[*Insurmountable*]

No No No,

She had 4 boyfriends over the summer.
One Used her, one Abused her, and one Pressured her.
And then the final one shes confused about because all he ever did was love her.


Okay from your whole situation the thing that I see is that you jumped in to to many relationships in such a short time before getting over the last and the situation that happened with them.

I personally like the first response the best..I hate the response of someone telling you to wait on him to come back because Deary, thats not going to happen. YOU broke up with him and if he really loved you hes probably trying to put some space there so you can get over him..

Anyway this is the reply i liked:

Does he still love you? Explain it to him, it sounds like you should be able to tell him anything at this point, so why don't you just explain everything?

As for your friends? Psssssh, it's YOUR boyfriend, not theirs. They shouldn't do that to you. If they don't like him, sucks for them. They're probably all just jealous ;)

For him: If you really want to give it another shot and you guys have really good communication while you guys were in a relationship and you can tell him anything then go for it I think you should just stop him or ask to hang out with him and tell him you want to talk to and just tell him about your past stuff and how your still hurt by it (if you are) and that with those things you just got so use to leaving guys for the awful things that happened that you got confused by someone like him just wanting to love and care for you. Tell him you want to give it another shot because you want to be the best you can be and heal from the past.


And as for your friends. SCREW THEM. If you love/like this guy and your happy thats all that matters! I mean you should care about your friends but you should care about yourself more. Although if your really really worried about them not liking them. Sit down with all of them and ask them the reason on why they don't like him and if they really have rock solid proof on to why they think the things they do.


Good luck


P.S. - I agree that you need to want to 'heal' and not rely on this one guy to help you and start...It is really helpful to have that one person you can always talk to when your down and stuff and when ever you need a pick me up but what happens if something does happen to him then you need to be able to go on it on your own.