Why aren't we together????, I don't understand... Options

[sweetest-emotion]

Okay so I've like this guy (borderline love) for about 2 years. I finally told him I like him last christmas. But the timing wasn't right...or so he said. We go to different colleges in different states, so you can see how hard this could get. So I figured to wait until summer to see if things could work.

We would talk online or text everyday it seemed. I would always confide in him my problems and him to me. We know stuff about each other that no one else knows. So summer came and we hung out a lot. And finally I asked him what his problem was. He's so hung up about his ex that the last 2 "girlfriends" he's had, he's cheated on with his ex. He said he didn't want to do the same to me because he cares about me too much. I mean when we had this talk he felt like such an ass because he was so confused about everything. Again, it seemed like the timing wasn't right. But I'm always going to like him. For some reason I have this gut feeling that him and I are like soulmates. We're so good together!

Then, about 2 months later, he tells me that he's dating this girl from him work. I try to act casual, but inside I'm hurt beyond belief. I don't get it!! He gave me the b.s. excuse that since we're so far from each other at school, it won't work. He's never told me that he likes me only as a friend but I'm slowly beginning to think that maybe he does...
What do you guys think I should do?? I want to tell him that he hurt me, but I have a feeling it will just open up all new problems and may uncover truths I don't know if I'm ready to know. And on top of that, she's 17, he's 19...when you're 23 and he's 25, thats no big deal, but around this age it is!
I just think I can be perfect for him. But I just don't know how to tell him...

[blacknailpolish]

This exact same thing happened to me. It's not even funny, literally the very same thing (almost...) I have this one guy friend, who is like the best friend I've ever had, and I can tell him anything and he can tell me anything, etc. Anyway, I fell in love with him and he basically told me he didn't feel the same when I told him. I kinda just let that slide, since I knew we were perfect for each other (I really knew, no doubt in my mind)and he was still my very best friend. So after that he started getting into this one girl, and he went after her for awhile and they started dating eventually. It really sucked, too, because he handled the whole thing horribly and almost rubbed it in my face even though he knew how I felt. ANYway, I eventually realized that if things wouldn't work out with us as a couple, then I should just put my energy back into a friendship. So now we're back to being really good friends and nothing more (I told him I was ok with just being friends, even though I'm sorta not...) I just think our friendship is too valuable, and I don't want anything to mess it up.

Well, after my ramblings about my own life, what I'm trying to say I guess is that you have to think to yourself, "I know it would be wonderful if we were together, but am I willing to give up everything to strive for that?" If having nothing more than a strong friendship is what he thinks will work with you two, then all you can really do is accept that I think (well, thats what I'M doing at least...) Just focus on being a really good friend, and who knows? He might come around after all.

Again, this is all just wahat I"M doing, I could be totally wrong about everything...