Why aren't we together????, I don't understand... Options

[sweetest-emotion]

Okay so I've like this guy (borderline love) for about 2 years. I finally told him I like him last christmas. But the timing wasn't right...or so he said. We go to different colleges in different states, so you can see how hard this could get. So I figured to wait until summer to see if things could work.

We would talk online or text everyday it seemed. I would always confide in him my problems and him to me. We know stuff about each other that no one else knows. So summer came and we hung out a lot. And finally I asked him what his problem was. He's so hung up about his ex that the last 2 "girlfriends" he's had, he's cheated on with his ex. He said he didn't want to do the same to me because he cares about me too much. I mean when we had this talk he felt like such an ass because he was so confused about everything. Again, it seemed like the timing wasn't right. But I'm always going to like him. For some reason I have this gut feeling that him and I are like soulmates. We're so good together!

Then, about 2 months later, he tells me that he's dating this girl from him work. I try to act casual, but inside I'm hurt beyond belief. I don't get it!! He gave me the b.s. excuse that since we're so far from each other at school, it won't work. He's never told me that he likes me only as a friend but I'm slowly beginning to think that maybe he does...
What do you guys think I should do?? I want to tell him that he hurt me, but I have a feeling it will just open up all new problems and may uncover truths I don't know if I'm ready to know. And on top of that, she's 17, he's 19...when you're 23 and he's 25, thats no big deal, but around this age it is!
I just think I can be perfect for him. But I just don't know how to tell him...

[msladyliberty]

I had something like this happened to me once. Except it was my friend who wanted more than just "friends." We're perfect together, and blah blah...but I didn't want to take it to the next level, simply because I wasn't ready for someone like him (at 17).

He "says" he loved me since we were like 11 + 14 (I know I was super young!). I was afraid of losing one of the greatest friendships I've ever had. Of course, I had a crush on him and all, but I didn't want to risk it.

Maybe he feels that way too. My friend even told me he was hurt when I started dating other guys and I felt so bad. He just cares for you too much and probably doesn't trust himself to be serious with you. He must think you're too good of a person for a guy like him (well in my case, my friend was too good for me i thought).

It's good to talk about it. Then you'll know why he won't be serious with you and maybe that will give you some understanding.