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[redpeony]

I am ridiculously annoyed right now and don't want to say anything stupid/mean that's unnecessary to the people involved so I'm just going to rant on cB. :p

So there is this little girl (well she is 17, two years younger) that is freakin in love with my boyfriend. I met her formally once and saw her after once so she is clearly aware that he is taken. I always suspected she had some feelings for him and thought she was super annoying but I just ignored it for the most part.

So two days ago my bf is hanging out at my house early in the morning. And he calls someone and leaves a msg, saying 'hey, just wanted to see if you were okay... yeah take care'. And I asked who it was and he told me a friend had called him lastnight while she was in downtown, and she had said 'I'M IN DOWWWWWWNTOWWWWWWWWWWWWNNNN. IM SOOOOOOOOOOOO DRUUUUUUUNK'. And immediately after he left that msg she called back and asked where he was and if he could hang out. He said he was busy and she asked where he was and he said 'a friend's house'

I got a little annoyed but at that point I didn't know who it was. I left the room and then when he came to find me I asked who it was. He said it was her (let's call her betty). I said 'I think Betty likes you.' And then he surprisingly said 'yeah.. that's my sisters' theory too.' I asked him how often she called him and he said 'probably every 2-3 days.'
I got mad at him for telling her he was just at a 'friend's house (girls I'm sure you know how I feel if you've been in that position). And he said 'it's kind of inappropriate for me to be at my gf's house this early in the morning'.. which I understood because I probably would've told my friends I was just at a friends house as well. But it was HER he was talking to!

Okay.. correct me if I'm wrong but I think that while I believe myself to be a reasonable girlfriend, it is completely inappropriate for a girl to call a guy every 2-3 days to hang out if he has a girlfriend. She asks for rides, asks to hang out, calls him when she's drunk. It's ridiculous!

I talked to one of my friends about it and she also knows Betty. She informed me that Betty has been in love with my guy for the last 3 years.

I don't think my guy is helping the situation AT ALL. Calling her back in the morning was a nice gesture, sure, but if a girl likes you it's only going to push her on. Picking up her phone calls, agreeing to hang out with her (in a group).. all of that and I'm pretty sure he is giving her the impression that she has a chance.

My boyfriend is being an idiot about it too. His sisters have told him that he should just get me to yell at her haha. I wouldn't of course but all my bf said about that was 'but it's so mean!' In a sense I do feel sorry for Betty because she is supposedly good friends with bf's sister but his sister actually hates her. She also has no father figure in her life and I'm sure it seems like my bf takes care of her and is one of the few guys who are genuinely nice to her.

But I don't like it. I want to be nice, really I do. But I am so tempted to go talk at her. I don't feel that our relationship is threatened by her but she is just.. plain annoying! I will talk to my bf about it for sure and I don't demand things from him ever. But I really want to demand that he stops talking to her so much, stop hanging out with her, stop calling her back the next morning and stop giving her freakin ideas! I know he says he feels sorry for her but I don't really care about her. She's freakin annoying and flirty and a skank (her last bf dumped her b/c she was too flirty).

I am struggling so much with this and I hate myself for not having more patience. I can't talk to my bf yet because he's camping for a few days.

How can I handle this and keep my own dignity and still treat her as a respectable human being?

[*Michelle*]

Tell her to back off politely. Simple as that. People may think it's a somewhat bitchy move, but you've got a right to if she's causing you to feel any jealousy or anger.

Plus you're older. ;)