I post here with a new story every week, but I need your feedback... Options

[xburnoutx00]

this is kind of a long story, and I don't want to waste too much time by explaining it - so I'll try my best to do it as quick as I can.

in 2004, I dated a guy and he kind of treated me crappy but we still dated on and off for about a year. Towards the end of our relationship he cheated on me and of course, I was too young & stupid to break up with him and forget him. We tried to work things out to the point that - it just wouldn't work anymore. He started dating the other girl and in a sense I was okay with it because he was happy, but I still wanted to be with him. I tried for about 4 months to get back together with him and eventually I just started dating someone else. I am completely over him now. but, when he found out that I was dating a new guy - I offered to be friends and he said no and walked away. That was the last time I ever saw him. [ he dropped out of school ].

Anyway - fast forward to this past weekend. I found his girlfriend on myspace. [they're still together]. We started talking and she gave me her side of the story from almost two years ago, and I gave her mine. Things got worked out and in a way, I felt some sort of closure. Her and I are slowly becoming friends. She's the sweetest girl and I'm really happy for the both of them. Unfortunately, this morning I got a message from her myspace [from my ex] saying that he didn't feel comfortable with her and I talking and he'd really appreciate it if I just got on with my life. I talked to her and she doesn't mind being friends but she wants to "take it slow". After almost a year and a half, I finally feel closure on my relationship with him and I am so releived, but I want to be friends with her.

So my question is - should I respect his wishes and leave her alone? or would it still be okay to talk to her. She says that I'm a nice girl and she does want to still talk to me.

I am just so confused. O_O

[xSybarite]

I think it's ok to talk to her as long as you guys aren't talking about your ex. He is worried that you might talk crap about him or tell his current gf something confidential. It might be a little awkward but I think you have every right to be friends with her.