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 Jul 29 2007, 11:15 PM
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When you're talking with girlfriends about insecurities and whatnot, do you ever find yourself putting you down while trying to comfort them?
Once my friend was saying she wished she had long thin arms like me and I responded by saying, "I hate my arms. They're like sticks. You have muscles I'd kill for." I hate when I do that because I'm fine with (most) of my body and it always turns into this competition of putting yourself down. Erm. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? |
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Aug 6 2007, 05:27 AM
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^ Sorry about that. Don't get me wrong, I'm not calling your friends shallow, I'm taking all of these examples people have given to weigh my opinions with. Lack of a better word, I think. What I was trying to say is that my friends and I don't talk to each other about that kind of stuff. I'm not saying that we're better than you or your friends, in fact, I think it's a bit unhealthy to keep it bottled up like we do. =\
Anyway, instead of putting yourself down to make your friend feel better about yourself, try to enhance her own features. More positive reinforcement will help her, I think. Although I'm sure someone has already brought that up before... |
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sourire DO you ever...? Jul 29 2007, 11:15 PM
revoltaire i don't talk about my 'insecurities' l... Jul 29 2007, 11:19 PM
Shanae1988 QUOTE(revoltaire @ Jul 30 2007, 12:19 AM)... Jul 30 2007, 09:48 PM
ashxx69xbaby QUOTE(revoltaire @ Jul 30 2007, 12:19 AM)... Jul 30 2007, 09:50 PM sourire I don't really know, but a lot of my friends d... Jul 29 2007, 11:23 PM towntown2 I'm not sure I understand what you mean.
But..... Jul 29 2007, 11:30 PM Chessboxxa 101 Self-depreciating comfort? Jul 29 2007, 11:34 PM sourire Lol I suppose it's like that.
"Oh stop it... Jul 30 2007, 12:02 AM revoltaire i actually do have one friend who obsesses about h... Jul 30 2007, 12:36 AM xKatt QUOTE(revoltaire @ Jul 30 2007, 12:36 AM)... Jul 30 2007, 08:38 PM smylies QUOTE(revoltaire @ Jul 30 2007, 12:36 AM)... Aug 8 2007, 03:53 AM sourire LOL I dunno if I could do that though. They always... Jul 30 2007, 12:44 AM doiink mmm i think i know what you're talking about. ... Jul 30 2007, 12:49 AM sourire LMFAO
Yeah, that's the kinda thing that goes ... Jul 30 2007, 01:15 AM LadyXTor This sounds very Mean Girl-esque.
"My breath... Jul 30 2007, 01:41 AM revoltaire QUOTE(LadyXTor @ Jul 30 2007, 01:41 AM) T... Aug 1 2007, 01:13 AM gigiopolis You know, it's funny, but I never talk about i... Jul 30 2007, 06:46 AM sourire QUOTE(gigiopolis @ Jul 30 2007, 07:46 AM)... Jul 31 2007, 12:18 AM xchrystizzle when it's a call for attention, I usually just... Jul 30 2007, 08:09 AM misoshiru my answer, "whatever. stop bitchin." Jul 30 2007, 09:37 AM XxSugarKisses-TeddyHugsxX Me and my friends dont really talk about our insec... Jul 30 2007, 12:27 PM 1angel3 Yeah I always point out one my body parts that isn... Jul 30 2007, 08:46 PM crueldade Haha, I do the opposite.
If my friends ever say, ... Jul 31 2007, 01:37 AM Insurmountable Yea, after the few minutes or comforting and then ... Jul 31 2007, 09:44 AM miiszxclassiic hmmm I never talk about my insecurities to my frie... Aug 1 2007, 12:55 AM vietbabiiix3 LOLs. My friends are mad conceited, so these thing... Aug 1 2007, 10:13 AM xSybarite I personally think it's really pathetic when p... Aug 2 2007, 07:42 PM sourire LOL I admire you guys.
My problem is I dunno when ... Aug 2 2007, 07:55 PM sugar_street I try to tell them I'm fat too but it makes th... Aug 6 2007, 05:43 AM Michelle Yes, those little white lies we tell >_>
O... Aug 6 2007, 10:25 AM Moderator I just tell them the straight truth. "You loo... Aug 6 2007, 11:30 AM Morbid Angel my friends are usually the ones talking about thei... Aug 6 2007, 12:34 PM |
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