Losing the will to live Options

[IfICouldEscape]

Basically got no friends, no girlfriend, the one I want I can't have, I can't get over, someone spread a rumour about me, not true, feel like shit, I bottle it in my room every day, noone I feel like I want to turn to despite my parents being fine and that, don't socialise, depressed.

How do people make friends lol? All the people at my school I just don't like, or they don't like me, I have developed social anxiety, basically I fear talking to people now, never know what to say, feel as if I'm being judged, I can't break the ice, it takes me agessssssssss to get to know someone properly to the point where when I walk by them I can stop and talk and not just walk by either ignoring them or just nodding my head. I haven't been able to get to that point apart from 1 person who I hold to my heart as a real close friend. I never know how to take a friendship further after the first meeting or two, with me it just seems like they become nodding pals after a while and I'm just thinking what am I doing wrong excluding the rumour but in different environments. I start to think I'm just such a boring person when they meet me. I find that there's nothing for me to see someone for after the first meeting point or 2/3 etc. I feel like a stranger to them and don't seem to build and connections. Sometimes I just talk to them for the sake of not looking like a loner but really I'm just bored of them and vice versa most likely. I'm starting to feel anxiety when I talk to people I hardly ever do or when meeting people for the first time. That way I find it more comfortable to just avoid talking to people all together, I even avoid talking to anyone really, at least I feel calmer. I seriously don't know what to say to break the ice, it really affects me. Any suggestions, thanks in advance.

[*shotgunFUNERAL*]

no, it's a low blow. don't claim you are all man and can back up your battles, if you have to be a pussy about it and have a mod intervention.

[illriginal]

no, it's a low blow. don't claim you are all man and can back up your battles, if you have to be a pussy about it and have a mod intervention.

Explain to me how I can back it up when majority of the forum dislikes me and are just waiting for me to slip up just to give me verbal warnings

[*steve330*]

Explain to me how I can back it up when majority of the forum dislikes me and are just waiting for me to slip up just to give me verbal warnings

Does it really bother you? If so it's not too hard to say a few kind words and not start fighting back until someone attacks you *shrug*.

As to the OP, being sympathetic on the internet is one of the easiest things there are, and it really doesn't take much to type a few sentences of advice you might find helpful to him that would apply to a majority of the population (not just you, assuming you have your own ways that don't always work for people). You could put in what you would recommend for any ordinary person, then you could add your two cents when it comes to you and work on the tone so it doesn't sound so harsh.

It's not that the forum hates you(maybe), but a good number of your posts come out as aggressive and arrogant, and that makes your ideas hard to approach, as well as you. Also, people are way more willing to listen to your ideas (the ones that aren't exactly mainstream) if you don't bite back at them because they disagree with you. Also, if you don't want verbal warnings for the stuff you say, you probably shouldn't report people so much for petty things.


Anyways, OP, bout all I can say is keep on keepin on and try to ignore belligerent posts as those ideas are easily misinterpreted and can instantly have a negative connotation which could immediately destroy any merit of good advice *shrug*

[illriginal]

Also, if you don't want verbal warnings for the stuff you say, you probably shouldn't report people so much for petty things.

Is that the policy here? If you snitch you get warned for aggressive behavior? I'll keep that in mind, people, don't snitch, because you'll easily get warned by the moderators. It reminds me of, "live by the code of the streets, die by the code of the streets".