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[*Mercy*]

We need to really toughen up our bashing policy.I mean yea, I know we are personified as Nazis, but it's not fair to have members get pushed away because of people like that.

Some people seem to forget that this site does not operate on their terms. Multiple people start shit just to start shit because they think it livens up the place.IT DOESN'T. IT PUSHES PEOPLE AWAY INTO THINKING WE ARE A BUNCH OF ASSHOLES.

When there are truly GOOD people on here, there's again the concern about how we are Nazis, but this accusation has come from a bunch of bitter "has-beens". What I'm thinking is that the simple verbal warning and warning doesn't work. Because you bust them in one topic and tell them "If you bash them lalalallal its a verbal warning" and they stop for 2 hours and then when they hear something they don't like or find foolish they go at it again like 2 teenage lovers. It's bullshit.

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php...view=getnewpost
Some of us, including myself have been guilty of in the past, come in to these kind of topics to "mock" or insult someone because they are young and are sexually exploring. I, personally, as much as I find some of the questions silly, have come to realize that they don't deserve this kind of treatment as they have come to a forum to ask for advice and help from people similar in age asking for things they might not be comfortable asking a friend IRL or searching online because they are afraid their parents might check up on them or something. The least we as a community can do is make them feel welcome and try to help them as best as we can. Even if she's 14 and didn't know the reason as to why she let her BF finger her, that's none of our business to belittle her on. It's her body; let her learn the good parts of that and the bad. That's whats it's all about.

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=179744
Some of this wasn't so bad.. but a good majority of this was bickering and arguing and downgrading. As you can see the original poster was having some serious issues. Why should this person have to put up with name calling and stuff like that?

And then not to mention there the people who do the "Quote-reply with "LOL UR SO FUNNY". Shit like that adds gas to the fire. At some schools when a fight goes on, the people who fight get in trouble along with the people who watch/instigate the fight. That should be something to consider too. Maybe not a warning but reprimanding or giving a verbal warning might suffice.

I know this has been addressed so many times but...this is starting to becomes cB's reputation of spammers, assholes, n00bs and "Nazis".

This kind of behavior is something we shouldn't have to tolerate or put up with..

[*superstitious*]

Plus, this place would be VERY boring without it.

This is one of the reason why i dont seem very active in this forum due to boredom.

I guess bashing is really fun thing to do when you're that experienced older member!

Honestly, that is part of the problem right there -
Public humiliation doesn't have to be the answer to boredom. It's not as if sarcasm isn't allowed, what is being talked about here are comments like these:

Your right, impressing me would mean having the brain capacity to say, "Wait, maybe I'm not ready."

Completely unecessary. I apologize for singling this person out, but it is a prime example of what Diana is referring to here.

That is YOUR opinion! Don't force it down others' throat. I think it's RIDICULOUS being fingered at the young age of 14. It's MY opinion. Nobody bashed her, it's just your imagination playing silly tricks on you.
It is the girls forum right? Girls seeking advice? And how is telling her not to finger herself or that she's too young a bad adivce?
This is a VERY wrong example of bashing. It shouldn't even be here. If you're going to saction me for posting my opinions politely, then that's BS.

Sandra, no one is saying that you aren't entitled to have and share your opinions. That's not what Diana is trying to say here. The key word here is tact.

You don't think fingering at 14 is a good idea. I don't either. However, I would just post something to the effect of.... you probably are not ready for that yet. Not something like OMG you dumbass. Stop posting these questions you retard.

For a group of Moderators who are perpetually accused of being "Nazi's", we have been extremely lenient on this issue. Point is, it's very clear in the Community Guidelines that personal attacks and member bashing isn't allowed.

PERSONAL ATTACKS
Flaming, trolling, member bashing-you name it-will not be tolerated here. If you're making an argument, it's always better to retort with reason and composure. Personal attacks are childish and have no place in these forums.

I know many have read this or have had it quoted to them before, but I'm going to go ahead and repeat it once more.

Diana is wanting to have a conversation about this and wants community input. I think that is fantastic of her to do, but the bottom line is that personal attacks are not allowed here. Period.

Instead of being rigid and dishing out warnings, it would be nice for folks to try to be courteous. By all means, say your opinions and give your advice, even if you think it isn't what the poster may want to hear. Honesty is the only way they will learn, especially when it's a younger poster with a legitimate concern. Sure, some of us will be thinking.... she can't be serious! But that doesn't mean that they aren't feeling some profound worry.