Losing the will to live Options

[IfICouldEscape]

Basically got no friends, no girlfriend, the one I want I can't have, I can't get over, someone spread a rumour about me, not true, feel like shit, I bottle it in my room every day, noone I feel like I want to turn to despite my parents being fine and that, don't socialise, depressed.

How do people make friends lol? All the people at my school I just don't like, or they don't like me, I have developed social anxiety, basically I fear talking to people now, never know what to say, feel as if I'm being judged, I can't break the ice, it takes me agessssssssss to get to know someone properly to the point where when I walk by them I can stop and talk and not just walk by either ignoring them or just nodding my head. I haven't been able to get to that point apart from 1 person who I hold to my heart as a real close friend. I never know how to take a friendship further after the first meeting or two, with me it just seems like they become nodding pals after a while and I'm just thinking what am I doing wrong excluding the rumour but in different environments. I start to think I'm just such a boring person when they meet me. I find that there's nothing for me to see someone for after the first meeting point or 2/3 etc. I feel like a stranger to them and don't seem to build and connections. Sometimes I just talk to them for the sake of not looking like a loner but really I'm just bored of them and vice versa most likely. I'm starting to feel anxiety when I talk to people I hardly ever do or when meeting people for the first time. That way I find it more comfortable to just avoid talking to people all together, I even avoid talking to anyone really, at least I feel calmer. I seriously don't know what to say to break the ice, it really affects me. Any suggestions, thanks in advance.

[IfICouldEscape]

Several people have said to change my outlook on life. In what way? Give me a bit of leeway because I can't think of how at the minute, I'm just wrapped in confusion.

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Several people have said to change my outlook on life. In what way? Give me a bit of leeway because I can't think of how at the minute, I'm just wrapped in confusion.

Think positively. If you cut your finger, be happy your finger wasn't cut off. If you get a bad grade on your home work... be happy it's not on your report card. Just think positively. You've gotta learn how to control your brain, not let your brain control you. The human mind is VERY powerful.

You dont need to point out your dislike. The whole point is to help him. I know you have the right to expressed yourself, but it's nice to be a bit more consideration, you know? You could had say something plain and simple, not be descriptive about people's problem such as ... " good luck with your mild problem"

You dont know his boat as a 17 years old! He's almost done with high school. He needs help, dont flip him off.
Oh wow. That was so uncalled for. You dont need to compare his depression with someone else.

What do you know about his situation? Understand that he's depressed and had been diffculty socializing for 17 years. It's really the time to get help. What do you expect? You think that's not "much to be depressed about"? Again, it's been 17 years. It's important to built a solid social foundation. At this age, he's late. And .... you think that's not "much to be depressed about ... ". When is the time he'll become social envolved ... when it's "not much to be depressed about".

Everyone is always striving to be better, not to be compared.




You dont think he knows that? Of course finding a women may not be hard for you. You know it takes a good stable social foundation to actually start a relationship.
And, what the heck are you trying to tell him about when he's twenty, becoming emo, and have 5 girlfriends. that is so unnesscery to say that. What's your point?


That's a nice experience to share, but keep in mind that he doesnt have a stable social foudation. He havent experienecd anything like you did back in high school. Basically, he's not an experieced social person.

Do you know people generally find true and pure friends after college?




that's a very good valid point.
"it's not hard to make friends". i'm not sure about his case considering the fact that you have better social abilties, and you're able to attract more friends.

Good God, you can't be serious... I'm not even going to bother with this. He's a young man who needs to have more control on his mind and think about all the other millions of people in the world who are much more unfortunate than someone who's depressed.

I guess I'm only using my experience of how I fixed my situation... I just realized my mind was racing at 29384002 miles a minute and I needed to get a grip on my mind and change my mind state. Also I realized that people all over the world are worst off than me.

I'm sorry, but I'm not gonna answer all your questions, that would just be foolish of me.