drowning in my own tears Options

[thisxchickxrocks]

what do you when the guy you're absolutely in love with gets a girlfriend.. and now all you can do is think about them two together.. and you're so in love with him that before he got with his girlfriend no matter what song you heard you could always make it relate to him... what do you do when all you can do is cry because he's not with you? I love this guy sooo much and before he got with his girlfriend it seemed like he really liked me... he gave me hugs almost everyday... especially when I waited on him... he even held my hand once at school... he gave me his number in my yearbook... what should I do? I cry myself to sleep everynight.. last night I didn't go to bed until 5:00 in the morning because I was trying to keep my mind off of him and her...

Please help... I'm soo sad I can barely think... It would make me the happiest girl in the world to be his girlfriend.. What should I do??

[xKatt]

Wow, I went through the same exact thing as you're going through now. I'd cry myself to sleep and cry myself awake and spend nights just lying there thinking "Why does he like her and not me?" We were best friends in the world, inseperable really, but when he started going out with my best friend whom he didn't even know that well, it threw me into a rage/depression.

How did I get through it?
1. Time
2. Meeting new guys
3. Never EVER bringing up the subject of them dating and resuming my life as it was before

Think about it. There's so much out there for you to do. I'm sure you're awesome and beautiful and there's tons of guys out there to meet that'd be ecstatic to be your friend (or more).

Letting one guy destroy you will be the worst mistake of your life.

[transcendentalis...]

Letting one guy destroy you will be the worst mistake of your life.

too true.
i did that after my long-term boyfriend dumped me for another girl.

then i decided i was f**king sick of crying and guys who do that shit are totally not worth my time.

i blocked everything out. if a song came up on the radio that i even listened to once with him, i changed it; if any song that remotely reminded me of how happy i was with him came up, i changed it.

then i got a job and new friends and got back in the habit of flirting with people. my new friends are extremely reliable, extremely experienced, and extremely understanding, and i couldn't be happier with them.

i WAS happy with him, but no matter how he ever made you feel... or how much he ever managed to convince you there was a possibility - it's behind you now, and you're never going to look forward to anything again until you're facing forwards.

i still love my ex, but i've managed to accept that what's best for him isn't being with me... and that's enough. all i want is to be his friend and someone he can talk to when he feels like there's nothing else.

a lot of the time, relationships aren't all they're cracked up to be. there's so many complications, and even though you think you can brave 'em all (and maybe you can), you really think you're going to be happy facing them all the time? during it, you're just going to be thinking... "god, it's worth it. i swear it is; he's worth it." and then when something happens and the two of you aren't together anymore, you're just going to feel like you wasted a hell lot of time.

good luck.