Losing the will to live Options

[IfICouldEscape]

Basically got no friends, no girlfriend, the one I want I can't have, I can't get over, someone spread a rumour about me, not true, feel like shit, I bottle it in my room every day, noone I feel like I want to turn to despite my parents being fine and that, don't socialise, depressed.

How do people make friends lol? All the people at my school I just don't like, or they don't like me, I have developed social anxiety, basically I fear talking to people now, never know what to say, feel as if I'm being judged, I can't break the ice, it takes me agessssssssss to get to know someone properly to the point where when I walk by them I can stop and talk and not just walk by either ignoring them or just nodding my head. I haven't been able to get to that point apart from 1 person who I hold to my heart as a real close friend. I never know how to take a friendship further after the first meeting or two, with me it just seems like they become nodding pals after a while and I'm just thinking what am I doing wrong excluding the rumour but in different environments. I start to think I'm just such a boring person when they meet me. I find that there's nothing for me to see someone for after the first meeting point or 2/3 etc. I feel like a stranger to them and don't seem to build and connections. Sometimes I just talk to them for the sake of not looking like a loner but really I'm just bored of them and vice versa most likely. I'm starting to feel anxiety when I talk to people I hardly ever do or when meeting people for the first time. That way I find it more comfortable to just avoid talking to people all together, I even avoid talking to anyone really, at least I feel calmer. I seriously don't know what to say to break the ice, it really affects me. Any suggestions, thanks in advance.

[kimmytree]

I think you're right about the social anxiety thing. I've been through the same thing, and that's what I have. Have you seen a psycologist/psychiatrist for your problem? Social anxiety is a mental disorder... something that never goes away. You can learn how to better cope with it, but its something that'll always be there.

I wish I could give you better advice... but I've tried to change too... and I've had no luck. That's why I have an appointment later this month.

But please dont think that you're life isnt worth living, especially over something like this! Good luck!

[illriginal]

I think you're right about the social anxiety thing. I've been through the same thing, and that's what I have. Have you seen a psycologist/psychiatrist for your problem? Social anxiety is a mental disorder... something that never goes away. You can learn how to better cope with it, but its something that'll always be there.

I wish I could give you better advice... but I've tried to change too... and I've had no luck. That's why I have an appointment later this month.

But please dont think that you're life isnt worth living, especially over something like this! Good luck!

You know that's something I've been told, that I have social anxiety. But I'm just quiet and observant, most of the time I only speak when spoken to. And sometimes I just don't waste a breath on people. I realize they gotta meet eye to eye for me to even bother socializing with them.

[kimmytree]

You know that's something I've been told, that I have social anxiety. But I'm just quiet and observant, most of the time I only speak when spoken to. And sometimes I just don't waste a breath on people. I realize they gotta meet eye to eye for me to even bother socializing with them.

Then maybe you're just introverted then? I'm that way too, but I actually fear social situations... and sometimes I end up having panic attacks. I get stressed out from just going to Walmart. And you know how you always have to cut down an aisle to get to the back row in a grocery store? I always have to search for an empty aisle to go down... even if that means having to go to the farthest one away. And when I'm at school, I have a hard time raising my hand to ask a question... even just asking for an answer to be repeated. Even just planning on raising my hand makes my heart race. And then when I'm called upon, I end up talking twice as fast as I should, and I sometimes end up stuttering. And then alot of times afterwards... for anywhere from just a minute or two to ten minutes I'll tremble. Like my legs will literally shake. And then my heart will continue to race... so bad that I cant focus on what I'm doing. So I guess that's a panic attack. But in order to have social anxiety you have to fear situations, and most people have panic attacks from them. Some people's problems range from not being able to speak in front of alot of people, to not being able to eat in front of people and use public restrooms.

I'm not saying you're concited or anything, but you seem to be picky on who you find worthy of being friends or socializing with. In the back of my mind I'm the exact same way. You seem really intelligent... people with very high IQ's have a hard time lowering themselves to someone elses level. So maybe that's it. Haha this is totally random, but do you have a high IQ?

[illriginal]

I'm not saying you're concited or anything, but you seem to be picky on who you find worthy of being friends or socializing with. In the back of my mind I'm the exact same way. You seem really intelligent... people with very high IQ's have a hard time lowering themselves to someone elses level. So maybe that's it. Haha this is totally random, but do you have a high IQ?

152 back in highschool. But IQ tests aren't all that good to depend on, in my opinion at least.

Oh and I'm very picky with people... I have very high and weird standards about everything.