Losing the will to live Options

[IfICouldEscape]

Basically got no friends, no girlfriend, the one I want I can't have, I can't get over, someone spread a rumour about me, not true, feel like shit, I bottle it in my room every day, noone I feel like I want to turn to despite my parents being fine and that, don't socialise, depressed.

How do people make friends lol? All the people at my school I just don't like, or they don't like me, I have developed social anxiety, basically I fear talking to people now, never know what to say, feel as if I'm being judged, I can't break the ice, it takes me agessssssssss to get to know someone properly to the point where when I walk by them I can stop and talk and not just walk by either ignoring them or just nodding my head. I haven't been able to get to that point apart from 1 person who I hold to my heart as a real close friend. I never know how to take a friendship further after the first meeting or two, with me it just seems like they become nodding pals after a while and I'm just thinking what am I doing wrong excluding the rumour but in different environments. I start to think I'm just such a boring person when they meet me. I find that there's nothing for me to see someone for after the first meeting point or 2/3 etc. I feel like a stranger to them and don't seem to build and connections. Sometimes I just talk to them for the sake of not looking like a loner but really I'm just bored of them and vice versa most likely. I'm starting to feel anxiety when I talk to people I hardly ever do or when meeting people for the first time. That way I find it more comfortable to just avoid talking to people all together, I even avoid talking to anyone really, at least I feel calmer. I seriously don't know what to say to break the ice, it really affects me. Any suggestions, thanks in advance.

[*steve330*]

Intramural football. Football team. Join a school club or something. Change your outlook on life, I know it may be hard to do but if you should do that things look way better. Join a gym. Join clubs with similar interests you share.

[illriginal]

Intramural football. Football team. Join a school club or something. Change your outlook on life, I know it may be hard to do but if you should do that things look way better. Join a gym. Join clubs with similar interests you share.

^ Pretty much the best advice.

Get into the gym, you'll make friends in there. Most of the time athletic in some sort of sport. And most likely they won't be a druggy :P

Plus you're depressed? Kid (no offense) but uh.. there's children even younger than you, who get molested, have no parents, have diseases, have no home, are missing limbs, eat bugs instead of a juicy hot dog or burger or steak, that don't own clothes, hell that don't even have a roof over their heads etc...

You've gotta keep that in mind. You don't have much to be depressed about. Education should come before relationships, it keeps your mind healthy and keeps your priorities straight.

And about women? Guy, there's millions of women around the world. A thousand of them just in a square mile radius. Finding a women isn't hard. You're only 17 years old, I'm sure by the time you're 20 (assuming you won't destroy your image with the emo or even grunge look) you'll have your 5 girlfriend +/-.

Your wanting of a friend, well that's different, and understandable, because people like to have fun and socialize, which is great. In highschool, I had many many many friends, most of which just used people, and were back stabbers/two faced. After highschool, I sort of lost interest in friends and got more into reading, spirituality, self improvement.

Technically speaking I only speak to two of my friends which are cousins and I have a best friend who's in Japan working for the NAVY. I would tell you the amount of friends I used to have, but I'm not here to be braggadocious or anything.

School, sports, group activities have always been the best source to find friends. And it's not about goin up to some one and sayin, hey? will you be my friend? It's not like that.

It's relations. If someone has the same interests in music, shows, sports, women, cars, anything... anything at all. All it takes is an agreement of any sort and start things off. Then you can go from there askin them some other question within that same relation and see what else they might come up with that you would agree with and switch topics from there and so on. Get to know them, get to know their other interests. This shows interests of friendship. It's not hard to make friends trust me.

[IfICouldEscape]

^ Pretty much the best advice.

Get into the gym, you'll make friends in there. Most of the time athletic in some sort of sport. And most likely they won't be a druggy :P

Plus you're depressed? Kid (no offense) but uh.. there's children even younger than you, who get molested, have no parents, have diseases, have no home, are missing limbs, eat bugs instead of a juicy hot dog or burger or steak, that don't own clothes, hell that don't even have a roof over their heads etc...

You've gotta keep that in mind. You don't have much to be depressed about. Education should come before relationships, it keeps your mind healthy and keeps your priorities straight.

And about women? Guy, there's millions of women around the world. A thousand of them just in a square mile radius. Finding a women isn't hard. You're only 17 years old, I'm sure by the time you're 20 (assuming you won't destroy your image with the emo or even grunge look) you'll have your 5 girlfriend +/-.

Your wanting of a friend, well that's different, and understandable, because people like to have fun and socialize, which is great. In highschool, I had many many many friends, most of which just used people, and were back stabbers/two faced. After highschool, I sort of lost interest in friends and got more into reading, spirituality, self improvement.

Technically speaking I only speak to two of my friends which are cousins and I have a best friend who's in Japan working for the NAVY. I would tell you the amount of friends I used to have, but I'm not here to be braggadocious or anything.

School, sports, group activities have always been the best source to find friends. And it's not about goin up to some one and sayin, hey? will you be my friend? It's not like that.

It's relations. If someone has the same interests in music, shows, sports, women, cars, anything... anything at all. All it takes is an agreement of any sort and start things off. Then you can go from there askin them some other question within that same relation and see what else they might come up with that you would agree with and switch topics from there and so on. Get to know them, get to know their other interests. This shows interests of friendship. It's not hard to make friends trust me.

Who said these are my only life problems? I have other very serious ones to contend with as well but can't discuss. What I've posted isn't a main cause for depression, it just topped up something else and kind of becomes one.

[MrStrife]

Who said these are my only life problems? I have other very serious ones to contend with as well but can't discuss. What I've posted isn't a main cause for depression, it just topped up something else and kind of becomes one.

Chill out guy. We're only trying to help you out here. I mean just look at the title of your thread. Nobody is trying to judge you and if they are, they have no right. They haven't been in your shoes so they wouldn't know, but you shouldn't attack people who's willing to listen to your problems.