the ultimate question., is your relationship based on love or lust Options

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is your relationship based on love or lust? be honest.

mine is completely based on love and compassion.

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I wouldn't actually say "love". I'd say its based on how I feel for them emotionally. Sure, looks and everything are nice, but they're not what make up a relationship.

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I wouldn't actually say "love". I'd say its based on how I feel for them emotionally. Sure, looks and everything are nice, but they're not what make up a relationship.

i agree, except, maybe my views of love are different from yours, but i think "love" is built on emotional understanding and compatibility (plus a whole lot more)

I don't lust. I've never conformed with our society. Not even porn turns me on (Yes I'm 100% physically/psychologically healthy).

and i dont think its healthy to not lust.... in fact that might be unhealthy considering, by rights you guys should because of tetosterone levels...
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and no.... relationships are not based on both. it can include both, but it cannot be based on both. i think some are not really understanding the question... here, ill ask it another way, um.... ok.... is love the solid foundation of your relationship, or is lust?

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i agree, except, maybe my views of love are different from yours, but i think "love" is built on emotional understanding and compatibility (plus a whole lot more)
and i dont think its healthy to not lust.... in fact that might be unhealthy considering, by rights you guys should because of tetosterone levels...
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Well true, but what does testosterone levels have to do with feelings? Lust by definition:

1. intense sexual desire or appetite.
2. uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.
3. a passionate or overmastering desire or craving (usually fol. by for): a lust for power.
4. ardent enthusiasm; zest; relish: an enviable lust for life.
5. Obsolete.
a. pleasure or delight.
b. desire; inclination; wish.
–verb (used without object)
6. to have intense sexual desire.
7. to have a yearning or desire; have a strong or excessive craving (often fol. by for or after).

So when you say, is your relationship of lust or love. I'm assuming you're asking;
Is your relationship of feelings/affections or
Is your relationship of sexual desire/meaningless relationship?


Now you COULD call a sexual urge a form of lust, yes. But what if that sexual urge with your loved one has a lot of feelings and loving thoughts behind it?. And you think of your partner and what they're thinking, how they're feeling, while you make love.

Unlike lust, lust would be more about your physical/sexual gratification. It would be a selfish sexual urge. Lust would be meaningless, you'd randomly have sex, even if you're stress out, you'd use sex as a form of not just physical release but stress release/relief as well. Lust is a grave sin, and is definitely not permissible in the sake of morality.