Self doubt(help!!), How do i stop this self doubt that hinders my relationships?? |
 Jun 29 2007, 11:17 PM
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OK this has been driving me nuts for the last couple days and I wanted to know if you guys have any suggestions or advice on how to stop this. You see Im in an amazing relationship with a really great guy...hes never done anything to make me feel down about my self or make me doubt his commitment but no matter what i cant seem to shake this feeling of self doubt. Ive put myself into a place now that i dont see why he would want to be with me so he must be lieing and hiding something and its not fair to him or myself because now im sitting in a different city freaking out thinking that something must be going on in my home town because im not there and i know hes a better guy then that he would never do anything like that ever! its as if i believe because ive been hurt in the past that is destined to happen in this relationship and thats making it so that im pretty much sitting here and waiting untill it does happen so that i can just get it over with but yet when i sit back i can not see one reason that i can see it ending. the worst part is i know that im doing this and yet i dont know how to help and it affects him as well because if my mind goes into self doubt mode while im with him and i get all quite and upset then he starts feeling like shit to because he knows im upset. I know that my mind being in this state will just end up ruining my relationship so what do i do about it so that it doesnt? The last thing i want is to loose him.
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Jun 30 2007, 12:53 AM
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Ya thnx that one helped i just never really thought of it because i felt like if i talked to him about it then it would be putting stress on to his shoulders but on the same note if i dont talk to him then im scared that it will get to far in my mind and ill self destruct the relationship in self preservation.
so i geuss now that i think about it if hes at least filled in with whats going on in my mind it will be easier for him to understand when i get into one of my depressive moods and he'll be able to help me cheer up because those moods are bad for the fact that i start over analyzing everything which makes me into a worse mood. by the way this whole blurb was me agreeing with you lol. and i know that i most likly went on and said stuff that i didnt really need to say but its my way of convincing myself lol. |
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Unrequited_love Self doubt(help!!) Jun 29 2007, 11:17 PM
steve330 Paragraphs make things much easier to read. I... Jun 29 2007, 11:21 PM letsTALK i know how u feel. i self doubt myself sometimes. ... Jun 29 2007, 11:57 PM Unrequited_love Ya thats one thing im trying to do...but how do i ... Jun 30 2007, 12:10 AM sweetest-emotion hmm a toughie...
first off, if he really is that... Jun 30 2007, 12:37 AM synkro ^ i think it's funny the way you replied in th... Jun 30 2007, 07:04 AM Unrequited_love Ya i geuss I know in my heart that he wont do anyt... Jun 30 2007, 02:11 PM aznxRawr I'm like that too. The best thing to do would ... Jun 30 2007, 02:47 PM Chessboxxa 101 How about getting some self esteem?
No, I'm t... Jun 30 2007, 03:07 PM synkro if there's an actual reason behind your insecu... Jun 30 2007, 08:25 PM
pinacoolada QUOTEYa thnx that one helped i just never really t... Jul 1 2007, 06:38 AM |
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