My relationship problem, help me Options

[Trinie]

Ok, me and my bf have been together for 8 and a half years already. we've been together since we were both in 8th grade. our relationship is good, i guess. but now he graduated from school and he has a real job now. as for me im still in school and going to graduate next year.

now here is the problem. since he has a "REAL JOB" now. i barely see him. i do see him on the weekends and sometimes i dont because he also works on the weekends. my friend tells me its a good thing because when we do see each other we'll want each other more and really look forward to being with each other.

but it doesnt seem that way. like im always the one who wants to see him all the time. im always excited to see him and very happy. but sometimes im not sure if he isnt like happy to see me. also here is another problem, affection towards each other is so-so, sex is i dont even know, i swear it feels like we havent done it in forever, but i do make and effort but he always tells me he is tired and stuff.

then sometimes i think he could be cheating on me. :(
i dont know, it sounds like im not making sense. i love him and i know he wouldnt do anything like that to me. but it feels like our love and everything we have is fading away. but i dont know, maybe im not being understanding, maybe im being selfish....

does anyone have the same problem?? give me some suggestions please.

[hojax]

so...i'm assuming you've mentioned all this to him before? (if not then..obviously..say something about how you feel like you're giving 80% while he gives 20%...obviously a big problem)

this actually happened to my parents (this sounds weird saying this..but...) my dad graduated and my mom was still in school..and well...the only way they could figure out how to work it out was to get married and move in together..that way they'd still see each other even though they were both in completely different places during the day.

i'm not saying that marriage is always the solution..because definitely it can be a big mess if its not the right time...but maybe moving in together (if possible) is a way to stay more connected?

i have no idea where you are in life..but it seems like at this point (8 years! jeeze!) you should either commit yourselves to each other or move on? sigh...relationships..