How old is too old?, should age really be a factor Options

[aznlyka]

it seems as women grow older and more mature, how much older a guy is than the chick doesn't seem to be such an issue. my mom is 45 and my dad 53, that's not a big deal, am i right? 8 year diff, but old is old, lol.

but then i JUST TURNED 18 and there's this coworker thats 25. 7 year diff, but that seems wrong to probably the majority of on lookers. i'm not sleeping with him, or in a relationship, but there's definetly something between us, but it feels like it's wrong to even think of starting a relationship with the dude.

when ladies get older and wiser, it seems more socially acceptable to be with a guy who's 5, 6, 7, ... 10 years older because they are women who know what they're doing, who has lived life and experienced relationships. i'm 18, i have a whole lot yet to experience.

maybe i'm not as mature as i feel i am, but i really like this guy, and i'm sure he likes me, but i only just turned 18 and he's 25. what to do? what to think?

ladies, this issue should be discussed.

[KayleighKins]

Both a man and womans brain doesn't mature until your 20. That's why the older you get, the more it doesn't feel like anything, because your brains are basically at the same wavelength.

I know what you mean though, I'm 18, and when this 20 year old started crushing on me I was a little freaked out. I think maybe you go through your childhood thinking "wow, omg 20 year old guys, thats just wrong for little me" and then you wake up and your legally a woman, and you can't help thinking with that 16 year old mentality.

Or, at least that was how it was for me.

After doing the math your relationship isn't creepy, but if it creeps YOU out, obviously you have to go with your gut. Right, in 5 years he'll be 30 and probably wanting to settle down. In five years you'll be 23, and probably ALSO wanting to settle down. But what if you don't want to? Relationship issue possibility number one.

And what if you two break up? Will you feel guilty, or wronged in anyway, or start to think that he was dating you for your body and not your personality? Relationship possibility issue number two. Although this can happen to anyone, but it might be stronger with a older guy.

What if you start getting the "have I dating enough men? have I had enough fun?" jitters? Relationship issue possibility number three.

Anyway. That probably has nothing to do with now, I'm just saying.