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[dpl313]

I have a friend. I'm 20 she's 19. I like her. I really care about her. I hinted towards it, she gave me her number, etc. We were scheduled to go out on a date, but her grandmother died. I'm not worried about the date. I'm more concerned about if she's ok, and what can I do as a friend to show her I genuinely care that she's ok. I called her home twice in one day. I spoke to this person who sounded like my friend to some extent, and the person was really angry. I left a voicemail too. I've been wondering how much time and space should I give her? What should be done on my part? My guy friend is suggesting I go to her job and see her. Which I do every now and then. My female friends are saying give her 2 weeks to a month. I have no idea what to do. I just feel like I'm being shut out.

[sweetest-emotion]

hmm thats a toughie. well as a 19yr old girl myself, i'll just tell you what i would like a guy like you to do...
yes you can visit her at work but i'm sure she'll be busy and stressed out to talk, especially if she's in the middle of something. i would just spend some quality time with her, alone or with friends. what she needs right now is someone's shoulder to cry on. she needs support and love. she needs to know that you care. i wouldn't give her a ton of time, i would get a hold of her right now. tell her that you'll be there for her if she wants someone to talk to, and suggest meeting up with her to talk. but don't press the situation. she probably needs some time to think, yes, and needs time on her own. but i would tell her that you're here for her. so give her some time but call her, visit her maybe once a week or whatever. don't be to pushy. she'll talk about it when she wants to open up. otherwise respect her wishes and just wait it out. she'll be back in no time. and when she sees how great of a guy you are and that you've been there for her, you'll be on that date in no time.