My boyfriends,bestfriend. Options

[misfit]

Ok my boyfriend's bestfriend is a girl.They have been bestfriends for about 7 or more years.They are both 20.And she has a boyfriend also who she seems to really be in love with.I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year now and we love eachother and what not,but when my boyfriend comments her on myspace saying stuff like hey gorgeous,and i miss you and love you lots and stuff,it makes me feel like shit.I mean i'm his girlfriend,not her..I wish he didn't speak to her that way..I mean do you find that normal?I mean he talks to me just about the same way..It makes me feel like i'm second best.I just haven't known a friendship like that,where they are so close and speak to eachother in a lovingly type way.I just find it weird.

And his other girl bestfriend,there was a photo of him and her in his bed together,on her myspace and I just went nuts.Yet I didn't realise she has a few other photos like that with her in another guy friends bed and he also has a girlfriend..We've sorted all that out but his guy friend saw the photo and said Oh sweet hit on her....I guess he was joking but how do I know that??

Ahhhhhhhhhh I wish my boyfriend just didnt have girl bestfriends..They have made me feel unwelcome from the start..He defends them no matter what and I feel like they are so much more important than me..Sorry that this is so long.

[jeSs1cA]

I agree with the others. If you want to make your relationship work out, you need to just talk to him and tell him how you feel.

I'm kind of in the same situation as you. My bestfriend is a guy, and my boyfriend and my bestfriend are really good friends too. When my boyfriend and I started going out, he didn't like my bestfriend and I hanging out a lot alone because he always got jealous. Now, 7 months later, he's just learning to accept our bestfriend relationship.

I totally understand how you're feeling though. As the others have mentioned, it will take long to get used to, but you'll soon realize that you shouldn't have too much to worry about.

You also have a choice of becoming friends with the girl, too. Since it's your boyfriends bestfriend, ask to hang out sometime. Maybe that will bring you closer and you'll soon realize that you have nothing to worry about.