weird topic, i wanna know abt this though Options

[princess2113]

do u think its ok for parents to hit kids?? what abt older bros n sisters

[queen]

I see what you're saying about how hitting would discipline them.. but too many parents that do hit their kids are abusive and ingrain a sense of violence in them, that they express in their own lives

I guess in an idealistic world, sparingly hitting a child for disciplinary purposes would help them develop a sense of right and wrong well.. but let's face it, we dont live in an idealistic world, and all too often the parents' anger and frustration at whatever the child has done gets out of hand.. and that's why I'm against this

have you read any alice miller books? because she's a child psychologist that agrees that the root cause of violence in our society is due to childhood trauma. but not every kid that gets hit grows up to become a violent person... there are kids out there doin' whatever the hell they want to because their parents don't hit them. this gives them a sense of control over their parents. and there ARE parents out there who discipline their children the way they ought to be disciplined. i'm glad my parents beat the crap outta me when i caused trouble. i think, though, there's a certain age where discipline would be the most effective; for example, hitting a four year old is not exactly kosher haha.. but once the kid is 10-12 yrs old he should know right from wrong, and will understand why he gets punished. i believe there is a certain degree to which you can punish a child also. like they say, the punishment should match the crime.