Is it wrong for a 14 year old to have sex?, -poll- Options

[EmoEyelinerx]

I know theirs already a topic on this but I wanted to take a poll.

**Im not saying im going to do it, im just wondering what some people think**

[SHOcouple]

This is a very important issue. One that you should talk to your parents about. Our opinion is that 14 is to young to handle the responsibility of a sexual relationship.

We believe that sex is a good thing that should be enjoyed and that everyone should be comfortable with. No matter what your sexuality you should be comfortable with it. You should be able to discuss sexual issues with your parents and not be ashamed of it.

This is not an issue of morality or right or wrong. It is an issue of responsibility. There is a reason fathers are so protective of their daughters especially at the vulnerable age of 14 through 18. Most don't want them to have a sexual relationship until a bit later than that.

Your bodies are starting to develop you are turning into a woman and your hormones are starting to flow. You get sexually aroused and curious about boys and for some even girls. Which is perfectly fine as well. You naturally want to experiment and experience new things. Most womens bodies will not be fully developed until they reach your mid 20s.

It is best to know your own body and how it reacts to sexual stimulus before you enter into a sexual relationship. Masturbation and discovering the different parts of your body and how they react to different stimulus is natural progression. Thats one reason privacy is such an important issue for young teens.

Bottom line. If you are still in school Middle / High school or even college. If you are still living under your parents roof. If your parents are still paying any of your bills (Thats Tuition / room and board / credit card ANY OF YOUR BILLS). If you are not able to handle any amount of alcohol in a responsible manner. If you do not have a job that you can support yourself and at least one other person on completely. If you do not have your own house and are on any type of government aid. You are too young for a sexual relationship.

You have to be ready to accept the responsibility of a sexual relationship and the consequences of it if your judgment is compromised. Such as with Alcohol.

What surprises me most about this thread is that everyone is talking about Pregnancy. While this is a Huge responsibility and a very important issue, and the ultimate reason for the human sexual desire. It is preventable by some measures (Birth Control is not 100% nor are condoms and any other contraceptive device).

Not one single person has brought up the subject of STDs. A Sexually Transmitted Disease can END YOUR LIFE. A pregnancy just complicates it. If you happen to get an STD you just don't get rid of it, many stay with you for the rest of your life, or worse KILL YOU.

You never know who has one. The person you are having sex may have an STD and not even know it. Herpes, HIV, and others stay with you for your entire life. You will be required to disclose your STD status to a prospective sexual partner. Now think how hard it will be to meet someone and devlope a lifelong rewarding loving relationship with a person if you have Herpes or HIV / Aids?

STDs can be transmitted through Oral sex and mutual masturbation (Fingering and manual stimulation by your sexual partner). You have to take many more precautions with new partners to avoid contracting an STD than you do getting pregnant.

It is not inappropriate to ask a prospective sexual partner to get tested. In fact it is a very responsible thing to do. If you desire to enter into a sexual relationship it would be responsible to go with that person and get tested together. Then go together to receive your individual results and share them with each other. If you are not ready to do that you are not ready for a sexual relationship.

Many teenagers have gotten drunk impairing their judgment, were convinced by someone, a boyfriend or even a stranger in the heat of the moment to have sex with them and ended yup with a Life threatening STD or pregnant.

Talk with your parents. Make sure they talk with you. Do not be embarrassed by the Sex talk. Make sure that you ask plenty of questions. Do not be afraid to ask questions. I would rather my daughter ask me or my wife about sexual issues that learn them from friends, on the Internet, or by watching porn.

Always remember Sex is good. You should be comfortable about your sexuality. If you are Bi-sexual or or gay you should feel comfortable and discuss those issues with your parents.

One thing we do well in our country (The USA) is repress sexual thought and feelings and make them something that is meant to be shared with no one. This is a problem. If you can not talk openly about sexual issues that you are curious about with your parents because they are embarrassed or offended, then they need help.

One of the reasons these questions about sex come up and young teenagers get themselves into trouble with sexual relationships is the serious lack of parental involvement in all aspects of their lives. Parents should be good Roll models, Guides, Mentors and best friends to their children.

I hope this helps. Remember Sex is a responsibility that should be enjoyd between two people who respect and trust each other. It is fun and should be shared openly with your partner only when you are old enough and ready to handle the responsibility of the end result.

SHOcouple

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