why does everything have to be so complicated, urg.. Options

[y0urelectrikk]

sigh. well really long story short... I went out with this guy, Pat, for like 9 months. and I was really in love with him. but he broke up with me because I "deserved better" and said I really need to find a new boyfriend... and about a week later he had a new girlfriend. a;lskdf.
so I pretty much cried every single day over that kid.. as pathetic as it sounds. everyone told me I should move on and stop wasting my time, and to just try and forget him.. even though it seems nearly impossible and I would do anything to get that kid back. but absolutely nothing was working and he stopped talking to me. and he lives like 45 mins away so its not like I get to see him in school or anything.
So now its about 3 months later and I figured I would finally listen to what everyone was telling me and try to move on.

so then there's James. James has always been a good friend.. and he recently broke up with his girlfriend. A few days later he asked me out.. so I said yes.
Well.. now his ex (a girl I knew, but wasn't really good friends with) is pissed the f*ck off at me, asking me how I could possibly do that to her because she knew I went through the same thing. and now I feel really bad because I did go though pretty much the same thing and I felt terrible then.

So now I dont know what to do.. even if I do break up with James it wouldnt make things any better for her. She would still be hurt and hate my guts. But now I just feel crappy about the whole thing. Am I supposed to put my life on pause for this girl who will hate me no matter what I do.. until she feels better?.. but end up hurting James... or what?

this is seriously a ... lose, lose, lose sittuation.

[*steve330*]

Wow that situation sucks. Don't beat yourself up over it though, you didn't do it to her maliciously. If anything, James is at fault, but really there isn't anything you can do that will change the current circumstances for the better. Enjoy yourself and don't worry about her. She'll get over him, as you may or may not have gotten over Pat. Regardless, life goes on, you can't spend all your days dwelling on the past.